A friend of mine sent me this information. It's scary and worth knowing. However, the stark reality of it is that almost 2 out of 3 women who are victims of rape are raped by someone they know. Only about 1/3 of those are reported to the police. How does one go about identifying a potential rapist in a prospective mate? 
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A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on
what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting
facts:
1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.
They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or
other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go
after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common
targets.
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2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women
whose clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors
around to cut clothing.
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3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through
their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off
and can be easily overpowered.
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4) The time of day men are most likely to attack and rape a woman is in
the early morning, between 5 and 8:30 a.m.
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5) The number one place women are abducted from or attacked is grocery
store parking lots. Number two is office parking lots/garages. Number
three is public restrooms.
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6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman
and quickly move her to a second location where they don't have to
worry about getting caught.
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7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year
sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
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8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouragd
because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going
after you isn't worth it because it will be time consuming.
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9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or
other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.
Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the
attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys
you're not worth it.
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10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is
following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an
elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question,
like what time is it, or make general small talk, I can't believe it is
so cold out here or we're in for a bad winter. Now you've seen their
face and could identify them in a lineup, you lose appeal as a target.
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11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of
you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to
said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would
not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
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12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of
it and carries it with him wherever he goes), yelling I HAVE PEPPER
SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.
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13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can
by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind,
pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or
in the upper inner thigh -- woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy whowas trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it hurts.
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14) After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a
particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is
extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make
him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our
instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of
trouble. Start causing trouble, & he's out of there.
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15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers
and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down
on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much
pressure, and I ended up o my knees and both knuckles cracked
audibly. **********************************************
16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of
your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any
odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel a
little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really
was trouble.
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A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on
what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting
facts:
1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.
They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or
other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go
after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common
targets.
**********************************************
2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women
whose clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors
around to cut clothing.
**********************************************
3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through
their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off
and can be easily overpowered.
**********************************************
4) The time of day men are most likely to attack and rape a woman is in
the early morning, between 5 and 8:30 a.m.
**********************************************
5) The number one place women are abducted from or attacked is grocery
store parking lots. Number two is office parking lots/garages. Number
three is public restrooms.
**********************************************
6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman
and quickly move her to a second location where they don't have to
worry about getting caught.
**********************************************
7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year
sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
**********************************************
8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouragd
because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going
after you isn't worth it because it will be time consuming.
*********************************************
9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or
other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.
Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the
attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys
you're not worth it.
**********************************************
10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is
following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an
elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question,
like what time is it, or make general small talk, I can't believe it is
so cold out here or we're in for a bad winter. Now you've seen their
face and could identify them in a lineup, you lose appeal as a target.
**********************************************
11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of
you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to
said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would
not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
**********************************************
12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of
it and carries it with him wherever he goes), yelling I HAVE PEPPER
SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.
**********************************************
13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can
by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind,
pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or
in the upper inner thigh -- woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy whowas trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it hurts.
**********************************************
14) After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a
particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is
extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make
him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our
instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of
trouble. Start causing trouble, & he's out of there.
**********************************************
15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers
and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down
on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much
pressure, and I ended up o my knees and both knuckles cracked
audibly. **********************************************
16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of
your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any
odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel a
little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really
was trouble.
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Hope your ok hun