so...a question for all the members of sg who pass by my blog:
how do you transform a relationship where he "is thinking about me and cares a lot about me" into one where he actually loves me. because i love him. i just hate to waste my time with someone who will just get tired of me or meet someone who really *sparks* with him.
is there just something that happens...that kindles this deeper love? we have been dating for 7 months. we have probably spent the last 4 weeks of nights together, we get along really well...our physical chemistry is good. i loooove to have sex with him. but there is just something that is holding him from falling in love. i guess it takes time for some people. i don't fucking know. i had a breakdown at work today...just worrying about it and being stressed out at work.
just curious about what some other people think...he is very nice to me and i am a great girlfriend. not sure what is missing...
thanks in advance for your thoughts.
your friend,
L.J.
NOTE: i just accepted over 40 friends on this site. are you one of my new friends? say hi!!
how do you transform a relationship where he "is thinking about me and cares a lot about me" into one where he actually loves me. because i love him. i just hate to waste my time with someone who will just get tired of me or meet someone who really *sparks* with him.
is there just something that happens...that kindles this deeper love? we have been dating for 7 months. we have probably spent the last 4 weeks of nights together, we get along really well...our physical chemistry is good. i loooove to have sex with him. but there is just something that is holding him from falling in love. i guess it takes time for some people. i don't fucking know. i had a breakdown at work today...just worrying about it and being stressed out at work.
just curious about what some other people think...he is very nice to me and i am a great girlfriend. not sure what is missing...
thanks in advance for your thoughts.
your friend,
L.J.
NOTE: i just accepted over 40 friends on this site. are you one of my new friends? say hi!!
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I'm not one o' the 40+ as is evident by the color here, just "a passer by" but . . .
It's hard to tell with these things, and there isn't a "way" to transform. Coming from the opposite side o' this - I met my spouse in college, dated & broke up off & on for a while. I always felt she was more "into me" than the other way around. But . . . it was nice, comfortable, stable, and sane. Hell, even when I proposed I had a few misgivings.
We've been married for going on 15 years now, and I can honestly say she's the greatest, most incredible, awe inspiring person/thing in my life. Ever. The point, I guess - as much as I ever have one, is that I can maybe see a little of what my wife might have felt/worried about me in your post, & while I can't say that your guy is me (lucky you) my advice is that if this is something you want, then, by all means, give it a shot. If you still don't know where you're at [insert time frame of your convenience here] DTMFA.
Sooooo,
1. Give him his week, hell, give'em two.
2. At the end of that time, go out, have fun. What that entails is up to you. The next day, sit down and have a heart to heart. Judge him by his answers and actions then.
3. For now, get the hell out of the house and have some fun. You seem like you don't have a hard time finding fun places to go. You can't live your life waiting for someone. If he really feels you are worth it, he won't have you waiting long.