okay here's something... I've been depressed and I've been witness to the depression of someone close to me... speaking strictly for my self the latter sucks about a million times more -- at least with my own depression I didn't have to struggle to understand what the fuck was going on... unraveling the mysteries of my wife's depression was like trying to untie the gordian knot using only my thumbs.
I could not imagine marrying someone who had the same sorts of depression issues I do. Wow. More power to ya'll.