I'm trying to analyze the following: what's the difference between really caring for your partner and being in love with that person?! Is it the same or is there really a difference?
Thing with me is that I overanalyze everything. I break down my emotions and behaviours into so many rational explanations that they completely lose value. However, my body and soul make me yearn things in such a different manner than my brain could have guessed.
For example, I was trying to explain to my boyfriend that it makes sense to state that every person who is 'in love' is actually dependent on some aspect of the lover. Being in love with someone must mean that that person gives us something, consciuosly or not, that we 'think' we need to feel better. So I went into this tyrade of thought and concluded that me and him actually are together because we see a reflection of ourselves in the other. This is a convenient situation because then you are allowed to be weak sometimes but always pretend from the other to be strong. In a way it's good and bad. Anyways, after a huge analysis and by-product being that mentally we suddenly felt a little bit disconnected I wanted to have some sex. As soon as we started making out we went totally nuts and made love to eachother like we had been apart for weeks. Conclusion: the brain doesn't understand shit when it comes to relationships.
Anyhow, is there a difference between being in love and really caring for someone?
Thing with me is that I overanalyze everything. I break down my emotions and behaviours into so many rational explanations that they completely lose value. However, my body and soul make me yearn things in such a different manner than my brain could have guessed.
For example, I was trying to explain to my boyfriend that it makes sense to state that every person who is 'in love' is actually dependent on some aspect of the lover. Being in love with someone must mean that that person gives us something, consciuosly or not, that we 'think' we need to feel better. So I went into this tyrade of thought and concluded that me and him actually are together because we see a reflection of ourselves in the other. This is a convenient situation because then you are allowed to be weak sometimes but always pretend from the other to be strong. In a way it's good and bad. Anyways, after a huge analysis and by-product being that mentally we suddenly felt a little bit disconnected I wanted to have some sex. As soon as we started making out we went totally nuts and made love to eachother like we had been apart for weeks. Conclusion: the brain doesn't understand shit when it comes to relationships.
Anyhow, is there a difference between being in love and really caring for someone?
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I've been mulling this over alot, and it seems to me having a relatively happy home, with both partners happy, gave our ancestors the best chance at survival.
I saw on TV, that when a woman has an orgasm during sex, the contractions actually help sperm on its way to meet the egg. Sure, our caveman ancestor could have simply forved sex on the female, except his chance of reproduction are lower if she doesn't enjoy the sex. As well, as they say "if mama ain't happy, nobody's happy"..
I think this inter-dependance feeling's we get were adaptions we made some where along the line because it was necessary for the first family units to survive.
IMO, they is a big difference between caring for someone, loving them, or being in love with them.
I have a couple of friends that I would say I deeply care about, and even love. But only in love with my wife, and to me, remaining in this relationship was also a rational decision. I just knew there was no way I was gonna find a better girl!
Take care Veritas.....(like your new profile pic, BTW)
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