veritas24

Yeah, I guess you make some sense, or at least it's understandable.

Emotional dependency, or maybe emotional co-dependency prolly needs to exist. IMO, I think I need a little bit of that dependency, even if it's for selfish ends.

I'm a pretty shy person, don't like to raise my voice in public, or ever show anger. However, with my wife, these are things, although not too common, are sides of me that she sees. In the reverse, she has acted in front of me in ways that she would never do with others.

Maybe I need someone to show myself honestly too, 'be myself' warts n all. And maybe she needs to know that she is the only one I feel comfortable really being myself too. And visa-versa....

I don't really wanna be strong all the time, and love having the company I am free to be weak with. Can't get it unless I give it....

Independence, however, is really important too. I never bought that 2 joining into 1 relationship ideal. I like more of a 'Bonnie and Clyde' partners in crime sorta way.

Good luck, and hope to hear from you soon,,,,,
(ya heartbreaker! lol)

/m

I guess I've done something similar: broke up with a lover, despite how much I loved her, because I could see that she wanted to get married to me and I knew that I'd never want to marry her. She was a great lover, but we'd never have made it as a married couple.