Monday Oct 27, 2008

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It seems that my set "Reflections" made it front page blush Really happy to make my comeback with lovely miss AnnaLee and her amazing set, Shimmer



Thank you all for your comments and feedback that made it go live -I know it's not the most original set or as creative as some of my older ones. But I wanted my first set in two years to be simple, intimate and truthful.



And since I know it is going to allure certain type of comments I'll post the answers even though most of the anonymous taggers and myspace flamers don't read the blogs biggrin

...yes, I'm aware of the fact that I'm not size 0 nor do I look like a blow-up doll. There are plenty of sites to suit those fantasies. No need to pay monthly fee for self-defined sets if you wish to have yours served in a more normative manner.

...no, I am not interested in your opininions about my body shape, hair or art. Ref. prevorious statement.

...and since this is the site where women choose to present themselves in the way they like to, I'm not interested in your posing advice either. You don't need to tell me that the set lacks of pussy shoots, I'm sort-of aware of that too, being the model, photographer and -shopper.

More about the choice not to airbrush my skin from my prevorious blog

SPOILERS! (Click to view)
After the recent discussion in the Photography group about photoshopping mishaps, and, since I'm aware that my set differs from the common plastophilic look some people prefer their erotica, I decided to shed some light on my thoughts that lead me to the decision not to photoshop my skin flawless. As you can see, there are scars, pores, hair and other whatnot that makes me a real person with herstory. Hiding them would be denying essential parts of myself.





Have you ever thought why girls in older pin-up pics seem to have "cellulite"? It's not because the times were somehow more tolerant but because no-one had yet conjured up a thing called cellulite and that it somehow needed to be banished off the skin of an ideal woman. Nowadays the whole shebang isn't just about the cellulite -the ideal woman does not have pores, body hair or love handles, either. The skin needs to resemble, well, a doll's. I think it's just a way of controlling women, controlling the scary, overflowing excessive female body and its abjects. By cutting away the personalizing features of an individual and, making the body doll-like, a thing, the will and the personality of the said person will also be cut off . It's funny that on a site that celebrates personalized bodies marked with tattoos, piercings and other kinds of bodily modification, some of the public still wishes the surface of the body to look entirely unpersonal, flawless, plastic-like. Hiding the marks of ageing also brings to my mind the age-old fantasies about young, helpless girls. It's easier to gain control over a nave, adolescent creature and even easier over something that's not a person, but a thing.

To me, this site has always been about challenging the standards of convenience. However, I can't help but feel disappointed if the definition of beauty is only "given" to slim, tattooed bodies -all the different sizes, shapes and herstories are left untouch. I know I'm going to get some nasty comments about my body size, especially if the set goes live (and into myspace) but -you know what? If some anonymous misogynist is afraid that seeing a real girl will destroy his fantasy of power over womankind or some poor teenager so deeply attached to the mainstream idealsl about body shapes that seeing other kinds of beauties celebrated frightens her, I'm more that happy to scare those unlucky people. wink



Too bad I'm not into fighting on the Internet anymore, would like to question some people's reasons and reasoning. Calling girls chubby, ugly or picking on their personal features is a way to control them, showing them their place, making sure they will be crying over unrealistic ideals instead of fulfilling their own fantasies. Luckily those comments don't have such a big effect on me anymore since I've long since realized the connections between power and beauty ideals but I cannot help myself thinking how will they affect someone else with same features but less feminist rage?

And at times I just wish people wouldn't complain about not getting hamburgers when they voluntarily venture into a sushi bar wink

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On other news, got to see Front 242 at Alternative party, a demoparty/digital culture festival last friday. The theme was steampunk and despite the fact I didn't have the time to get myself a full Victorian outfit, I was pretty happy with what I found in my closet



The corset fit surprisingly well though I haven't been tight lacing in years.



It's autumn. That means loads of work. I'll need to read two books, around ten articles and write a few essays, seminaire papers etc. within a few weeks. So I'm really sorry for not being able to answer all your comments right away, but I'll be back soon kiss

In the meantime, take a look at these sets in member review


Miranda - Heavenly Creature by me




Korento - Ordeal by Roses by me



and



Lumiere - Liberty by Cherry ♥



They are all great and these girls truly deserve to have new sets. They are from the time MR sets didn't show on front page so I think many of you might have missed them.

But off to work it is, many pages of surrogate decision making to read now.



p.s. sexy feminist might be my favourite tag, ever biggrin

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shadow21:
i am probably one of the very few guys to say this but i think you are very right about how most people want to see that "prefect women" skin and body shape and to those people i say if that is what you want then why are you on a website that is supposed to celebrate difference and individuality and beauty from many different views not societies commercialized views of the "barbie" look if you don't like what you see don't look and stop looking at this site.
severus:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=76aRL6CnQgE

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