so I just had a disagreement with someone and I'm pretty sure I'm not in the wrong but fuck it. This person constantly preaches how they want acceptance to be taken for who they are, but bitch me out if I don't agree with them or speak up for myself. They seem to only want to be my friend and have anything to do with me if I change certain aspects of my personality and I think that's a bit redundant when you take into their wanting to taken for whom they are and not asked to change anything. Acceptance is a two way street. And I told the person I don't feel I should have to bend over backwards to make people like me or want to be my friend. And I was told that if I were really a nice guy it wouldn't be bending over backwards but that I should just change and compromise part of what makes me "me" just so that one person will like me more. And if I speak up for myself and say that shit's not cool and I won't do it then I'm being mean, I'm not a nice guy and I'm the bastard. Shit doesn't make sense.
rosie:
you should never have to change yourself so that someone will like you. and if you do change you have to want to do it for yourself not for anyone but you. speaking up for yourself doesnt make you mean or wrong. this person obviously wants you be someone youre not and asking you (or telling you) to change isnt fair for you. so fuck it andbe yourself!! 