Well.....this may well be THE most epic blog I have ever written...
I'm a bit confused as in what to do,and would appreciate any little bit of advice!
I'm a bit confused as in what to do,and would appreciate any little bit of advice!
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Right,here goes. Sorry if this is VERY boring to most of you,I'm sure it will be!
I started seeing a guy in December. Now this guy has been trying to meet with me for literally a year,and I was not at all interested.Right up even until the end of November. I had a little flirty thing with his best friend,and it just never seemed an option, and I just didn't find him that great....
So then I finally gave in,I had been txting him a lot and felt it was unfair to lead him on, so I agreed to at least meet. We got on a lot better than I thought and started to REALLY like each other.
I slept with him on a thursday and wanted to see him the next night, and he said yes then called me to say he forgot he had booked months ago to see Kings of Leon in Sheffield with 3 friends.
So off he went to Sheffield....
On the way there he was txting me constantly, and he said to me
"if I'm sleeping with you, then I want to be the only one. There can't be other guys, I can't handle that. I'm too jealous."
I agreed.It seemed a fair enough request to ask I not be jumping into bed with random guys!
So the weekend went by,he txt me a lot.Then I met him the next week a few times and we decided to start being together properly.
I was going out one night with my friend Amanda, who just happens to be going out with one of his friends (they were meeting us later) her boyfriend had been to her house, and left himself signed into msn. She read his messages. In one of the messages there was something about my now boyfriend and another girl. She sent me the email but I saw her before I read it and she told me. She was sure he had at least kissed someone.
I confronted him, he said a really ugly girl tried to kiss him and he pushed her away.
I didn't believe it but I left it at that.
months have gone by,8 of them and all seemed fine.
Til I was clearing out my facebook inbox and came across the email which I had somehow missed.
In it was this statement....
We hit this club called 'Plug'...Very electro and dancie, Annie Mac was in the main room. Sick music and beats. You would have loved it!! Pat was out of his tree, and disappeared for the whole night getting totally dominated by alcohol. Cran and Oral were working some sorts on the floor and I ended up back at this hoe's flat, who attended Sheffield Uni (She was a first year student). Within 15 mins of meeting her, she was on her back getting the Black and Decker treatment. Standard Cook. After, my exact words were ''What is your name?'' ''Kate'' she replied. ''I'm Phil, nice to meet you''. I left the halls, and went back to Plug to meet the boys!! Lolz...They greeted me with a pat on the back, and we were all back on it again until about 4am. To give you an idea of what she looked like, 'Emre' with long hair would be a close match. Hence the Turkish innuendos from Oral.
Well,as you can quite clearly see,he slept with someone.
Someone hideously ugly too by the sounds of it.
Now I just don't feel the same around him. Hes told me hes regretted it ever since, and that he slept with her for about two minutes before he realised what he was doing and left, that he was a different person then etc etc,but I'm not sure howI feel about it.
I know we weren't a couple then,but he specifically asked me not to even kiss someone else. I agreed and he sleeps with someone!
His excuse was that his friend told him I was probably sleeping with someone anyway.
Good excuse eh.....................
What would you do if this was your now boyfriend?
Should I just accept it was a mistake and that we weren't together?
Or be pissed off that he lied for 8 months even though I asked him at least 8 times if he did sleep with anyone else. I even asked him when I went and got tested in january, and he still lied.
I'm so confused. I need some help! Please!
If you have taken the time to read this then I LOVE YOU! LOL
I started seeing a guy in December. Now this guy has been trying to meet with me for literally a year,and I was not at all interested.Right up even until the end of November. I had a little flirty thing with his best friend,and it just never seemed an option, and I just didn't find him that great....
So then I finally gave in,I had been txting him a lot and felt it was unfair to lead him on, so I agreed to at least meet. We got on a lot better than I thought and started to REALLY like each other.
I slept with him on a thursday and wanted to see him the next night, and he said yes then called me to say he forgot he had booked months ago to see Kings of Leon in Sheffield with 3 friends.
So off he went to Sheffield....
On the way there he was txting me constantly, and he said to me
"if I'm sleeping with you, then I want to be the only one. There can't be other guys, I can't handle that. I'm too jealous."
I agreed.It seemed a fair enough request to ask I not be jumping into bed with random guys!
So the weekend went by,he txt me a lot.Then I met him the next week a few times and we decided to start being together properly.
I was going out one night with my friend Amanda, who just happens to be going out with one of his friends (they were meeting us later) her boyfriend had been to her house, and left himself signed into msn. She read his messages. In one of the messages there was something about my now boyfriend and another girl. She sent me the email but I saw her before I read it and she told me. She was sure he had at least kissed someone.
I confronted him, he said a really ugly girl tried to kiss him and he pushed her away.
I didn't believe it but I left it at that.
months have gone by,8 of them and all seemed fine.
Til I was clearing out my facebook inbox and came across the email which I had somehow missed.
In it was this statement....
We hit this club called 'Plug'...Very electro and dancie, Annie Mac was in the main room. Sick music and beats. You would have loved it!! Pat was out of his tree, and disappeared for the whole night getting totally dominated by alcohol. Cran and Oral were working some sorts on the floor and I ended up back at this hoe's flat, who attended Sheffield Uni (She was a first year student). Within 15 mins of meeting her, she was on her back getting the Black and Decker treatment. Standard Cook. After, my exact words were ''What is your name?'' ''Kate'' she replied. ''I'm Phil, nice to meet you''. I left the halls, and went back to Plug to meet the boys!! Lolz...They greeted me with a pat on the back, and we were all back on it again until about 4am. To give you an idea of what she looked like, 'Emre' with long hair would be a close match. Hence the Turkish innuendos from Oral.
Well,as you can quite clearly see,he slept with someone.
Someone hideously ugly too by the sounds of it.
Now I just don't feel the same around him. Hes told me hes regretted it ever since, and that he slept with her for about two minutes before he realised what he was doing and left, that he was a different person then etc etc,but I'm not sure howI feel about it.
I know we weren't a couple then,but he specifically asked me not to even kiss someone else. I agreed and he sleeps with someone!
His excuse was that his friend told him I was probably sleeping with someone anyway.
Good excuse eh.....................
What would you do if this was your now boyfriend?
Should I just accept it was a mistake and that we weren't together?
Or be pissed off that he lied for 8 months even though I asked him at least 8 times if he did sleep with anyone else. I even asked him when I went and got tested in january, and he still lied.
I'm so confused. I need some help! Please!
If you have taken the time to read this then I LOVE YOU! LOL
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it's quite clear, really.
if he wants you two to be in an open relationship he should of stated that up front.
you should never trust him with your feelings again.
he is whom he is. that's not bad. doesn't make him bad either.
he's just not the bloke for you.
simple. move on.
you will find a better match.
best to you.
Ask him about it
Be firm
Listen to what he has to say
Judge with your head not your heart, it will be safer for you that way long term