urblueygrl

this family stuff is so annoying. i went to go pick up the 12yr old yesterday from his mom after he spend the day with his mom and 2 sisters. They are at the 19yrs old ex's place (he is the drug dealer). We had a big yelling match because the 19yr old is pissed that I dont feel comfortable with him being their with them, she was getting mad saying that she loves her brother and wouldn't let anything happen to him. I told them that i thought they were doing drugs the other night i picked him up, she got very defensive and was swearing she wouldn't do that. but i confronted her by telling her that i know for his birthday they were doing drugs in the house and he was there....to that she started yelling yeah "just weed"

at this point i was like lets go outside and stop talking about all of this in front of him. So we go outside and they basically tell me they understand i am tryin to help but that I'm going about it the wrong way. They said i keep tryin to act like I am better then them... (((can you believe that.. do you know how hard it was to not just laugh and say well thats because I AM,,, a mother that cant protect her kids, steals from her kids to buy drugs, and just basically thinks of no one but herself and a 19yr who can't get her life together because she keeps making poor choices and is miserable)))

but I don't instead I pointed out that i just can't sit by and watch stuff happen. that the both of them have let theirseves get stuck in bad situations and how can i trust them not to put alex in a bad situation if they can't even keep themselves out of them. His mom was like "well how do you think it makes me feel if you have to send someone with him to keep an eye on us? I'm the mom and you can't over step that" I told her i understand that but right now alex is my main concern not yall and i trust the 23yr old more then i trust yall.

i talked to the 19yr old alone and explained to her that i can't just sit by anymore. I watched what happened with her older sis ((she was put in bad situations where their was attempted molestations several times, and the mom couldn't even bring her to school so she dropped out)), then what happened with her the 19yr old((the same thing with school and her mom couldnt even protect her from her own bf... yeah the bf she is now living with slept with her 14yr old daughter after feeding her a bunch of pills, she has been living on her own since she was 16)) so how can i sit back and watch something like this happen to alex. I wouldnt be able to live with myself if i didnt do anything..

of course she went on to tell me that she tells him that she does weed and thats ok. And that the only person he talks to is his mom and we cant take that away from him. and how her mom know this is her last try and if she messes up again then they will probably take her child away from her. She doesnt even seem to realize how serious all of this is. She even told me she wouldnt go back and change her life if she could she is glad she went thru all of that..... so what you want your brother to be molested and drop out of school and have it hard just like you so it can build character?? i don't get it... i thought you were suppose to want better for the people you love, and not be selfish and pull them down into your messed up life just so they are there with you.

whats even worse is that im really starting to suspect that he may have been or is being molested. he is just not maturing like a boy would be. I know he is 2yrs behind in school because he hasnt been going for a few years but other then that there is just something not right about him. and several people have mentioned it so far. He is living with the mom that is obviously on hard drugs and her bf who is the one that molested the 19yr old when she was younger.... i just hope i can do whats right by him and not make things worse. As of right now i'm gonna fight for him and see what happens.