So the plot thickens in my ever hopeful fight to find faith in humanity. What a day! The artist from yesterday, whose bike was transplanted and damaged yesterday, turned out to be the owner of a nightclub down the street from where I work. I smiled as if trying to engulf the world as he approached the green Mercedes. What was he going to do? Was he going to key it, take a bat to the windshield? No. He pulled his phone out of his pocket, dialed a number, and walked around inspecting the car. About 20 minutes later, a tow truck appeared, picked up the green Mercedes and pulled away. The owner of the car never again appeared. Score one for the good guys.
On a sadder not however, faith was lost again in all of humanity moments later. To make a long story short, I have been seeing this girl I met in Bloomington since Memorial Day Weekend. Things have been going really well, great conversations on the phone, hanging out every other weekendjust an all around good time. It has been a long time since I have dated and chosen the high road of monogamy. Since meeting this girl, I have not even kissed another soul, out of some sort of pledge to this her.
Yesterday she left Bloomington to visit her parents in North Carolina and made a planned stop off at a really good friend of mines house in Knoxville, TN. We have each made the 400+ mile journey just to see each other. Now, I have never really officially had a conversation with this girl about dating or the like, but given our long conversations their was an inherent understanding about not getting with other people or so I thought. I mean cmon, whats the point on dating, if you have to have a discussion about at which point it becomes inappropriate to hook-up with other people. Needless to say, the two of them hooked-up, but no sex was involved and I have yet to hear details.
I ask the SG communitys opinion, mainly the four people who read the shit I write, do I have a right to be upset? I think I do, but before flipping out, I wanted to hear other peoples opinions and approach the situation diplomatically. My friend had no knowledge of my situation or my feelings and feels awful. However, he disclosed that if he would have known my feelings he would never have revealed the truth. First a wound, then the salt please, then deprive the man of a bandage. I have lost all faith in society, particularly the opposite sex, because it seems that everything revolves around a fucking technicality or a lack of clarification. I dont really know what to do and maybe I am overreacting a bit, since we had never really discussed not seeing other people. At what point does it become appropriate to pledge monogamy to someone else? I am really curious about what people think. What is the point in dating then?
I feel like I have been duped. It seems like when I try to be an honorable, honest person, shit flies in all directions until Im up to my neck, drowning in assholes. This is a day where I need my 20 friends in a box (American Spirits if you please), although I quite months ago and my good old, solid, friend Wild Turkey. I might just get to live my movie fantasy, me, a surly bartender, a bunch of pathetic souls drowning themselves in alcohol and smoke smothering any chance of laughter.
I ask you all to spread the word and posit the question, What constitutes cheating? Ironically, I was conflicted while watching Clerks. Dante laments and considers it worse that his girlfriend has sucked 37 guys dicks than him admitting to having sex with 13 women. Is fooling around, sucking dick forgivable and sex not? Which is worse? I am dying to hear what other people think.
Sunny disposition awaits at the bottom of the bottle.
Mikael do not discuss this with Mom and Dad (not like I think you would, but just asking and honestly stating my preference. Also, I dont know what I am going to do about this situation and I dont know the details and you know how Jean tends to judge. Thanks for being such a great brother and bless Les for how wonderful she is. God you two are great together! Look forward to seeing you both together again.)
I would love to hear from folks before I really make a big deal. I'll keep everyone posted.
Josh
On a sadder not however, faith was lost again in all of humanity moments later. To make a long story short, I have been seeing this girl I met in Bloomington since Memorial Day Weekend. Things have been going really well, great conversations on the phone, hanging out every other weekendjust an all around good time. It has been a long time since I have dated and chosen the high road of monogamy. Since meeting this girl, I have not even kissed another soul, out of some sort of pledge to this her.
Yesterday she left Bloomington to visit her parents in North Carolina and made a planned stop off at a really good friend of mines house in Knoxville, TN. We have each made the 400+ mile journey just to see each other. Now, I have never really officially had a conversation with this girl about dating or the like, but given our long conversations their was an inherent understanding about not getting with other people or so I thought. I mean cmon, whats the point on dating, if you have to have a discussion about at which point it becomes inappropriate to hook-up with other people. Needless to say, the two of them hooked-up, but no sex was involved and I have yet to hear details.
I ask the SG communitys opinion, mainly the four people who read the shit I write, do I have a right to be upset? I think I do, but before flipping out, I wanted to hear other peoples opinions and approach the situation diplomatically. My friend had no knowledge of my situation or my feelings and feels awful. However, he disclosed that if he would have known my feelings he would never have revealed the truth. First a wound, then the salt please, then deprive the man of a bandage. I have lost all faith in society, particularly the opposite sex, because it seems that everything revolves around a fucking technicality or a lack of clarification. I dont really know what to do and maybe I am overreacting a bit, since we had never really discussed not seeing other people. At what point does it become appropriate to pledge monogamy to someone else? I am really curious about what people think. What is the point in dating then?
I feel like I have been duped. It seems like when I try to be an honorable, honest person, shit flies in all directions until Im up to my neck, drowning in assholes. This is a day where I need my 20 friends in a box (American Spirits if you please), although I quite months ago and my good old, solid, friend Wild Turkey. I might just get to live my movie fantasy, me, a surly bartender, a bunch of pathetic souls drowning themselves in alcohol and smoke smothering any chance of laughter.
I ask you all to spread the word and posit the question, What constitutes cheating? Ironically, I was conflicted while watching Clerks. Dante laments and considers it worse that his girlfriend has sucked 37 guys dicks than him admitting to having sex with 13 women. Is fooling around, sucking dick forgivable and sex not? Which is worse? I am dying to hear what other people think.
Sunny disposition awaits at the bottom of the bottle.
Mikael do not discuss this with Mom and Dad (not like I think you would, but just asking and honestly stating my preference. Also, I dont know what I am going to do about this situation and I dont know the details and you know how Jean tends to judge. Thanks for being such a great brother and bless Les for how wonderful she is. God you two are great together! Look forward to seeing you both together again.)
I would love to hear from folks before I really make a big deal. I'll keep everyone posted.
Josh
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*hug* seriously Josh, I don't get it, because you and Mikael are two of the awesomest men I've ever encountered. Jean and Lar must have done something right.
I don't know if sucking cock, fooling around or sex is worse, and I'm not sure it matters what is worse. I think they all constitute cheating.
I just think anytime you get the details it leads to a wild imagination trip and shouldn't be thought or asked about. Better to just tell her how you feel about, decide what happens from there and let it go.
good luck!