Well my friends, sorry for the lag in blog posts, Momma is busy bee making merry xmas for all of us here.
We had alot of family drama this past week and I'll try not to bore you with details, as I'm sure everyone has family drama at this time of year.
This is our first time holding Christmas in our house! When we bought this house a year ago it was a tough road to get here, we had been laid off and bottomed out financially and our family was there for us to get back on our feet, so this year was special to me. I wanted to put on a fabulous day with a thirty pound bird and all the trimmings as a way to say thankyou and celebrate our family and how we are getting on. It is also the first year that we are complete, as in no more kids for us. Last year we made a big purchase with our dining room set. We bought this house with xmas in mind as it had a huge dining room, and the first real furniture we bought was this dining room set. We trolled for months to find a big enough table to house us all (its awesome farm style 12 seater!) for xmas. Also , I have been with Karl for 12 years now and have had to endure endless xmas days at his families houses so this year was my turn.
I asked evryone a year ago, and reasked in Sept to make sure all 12 were coming. we told the kids. We bought shrimp and chocolate and booze, all of which we can't afford ...but this was OUR year!! I got the kids all matching cheesy outfits with ties and such and was stoked. My first tip toe in traditional like living...conventional even..weird!
Karls family has just told me that they are not coming now. A week to go. Des was in tears, as was I. We never had the fancy wedding or housewarming or showers...this is all I have asked of them. I was heartbroken!!! They are upset because I invited Karls dad , who they all hate. I did because he IS family, and alone, and he helped us when we needed it to buy this damn house. I'm sticking to my guns. I am right.
I have endured alot of shitty xmases for my family. Thats what family does. We do things that are uncomfortable for those we love.
One year my mom told me that her mother would not come if a cetain child molesting cousin wasn't invited. I told my ma that I wouldn't come home to sit across from a man who molested me and be able to eat. She started crying and said she felt torn between her mother (who she didn;'t want to be alone) and me. I caved. I love my mom, I came home, ate , smiled and left knowing that I made her happy.
Not to say that Karls dad is a molester or anything..hes a nice guy who just happens to be a bit of a pompous ass..hey we all have faults haha! He never did anything to deserve to be alone is the point anyway...
So thats what is shakin. I am moving full steam ahead with all the plans I had anyway. FOOK THEM! IF they don't show then I will know where we stand and whoever does come will be accepted in as family does. We will see how it goes.
I will not them ruin this for me. I set the emotional tone for my little ones. I stopped crying and got back in the spirit again, even though Karls family may not be here, we will soldier on and make do with at least half of their extending family (mine) will be here and I hear Santa is still coming...
I bet you all have these kinds of things happen too...
We had alot of family drama this past week and I'll try not to bore you with details, as I'm sure everyone has family drama at this time of year.
This is our first time holding Christmas in our house! When we bought this house a year ago it was a tough road to get here, we had been laid off and bottomed out financially and our family was there for us to get back on our feet, so this year was special to me. I wanted to put on a fabulous day with a thirty pound bird and all the trimmings as a way to say thankyou and celebrate our family and how we are getting on. It is also the first year that we are complete, as in no more kids for us. Last year we made a big purchase with our dining room set. We bought this house with xmas in mind as it had a huge dining room, and the first real furniture we bought was this dining room set. We trolled for months to find a big enough table to house us all (its awesome farm style 12 seater!) for xmas. Also , I have been with Karl for 12 years now and have had to endure endless xmas days at his families houses so this year was my turn.
I asked evryone a year ago, and reasked in Sept to make sure all 12 were coming. we told the kids. We bought shrimp and chocolate and booze, all of which we can't afford ...but this was OUR year!! I got the kids all matching cheesy outfits with ties and such and was stoked. My first tip toe in traditional like living...conventional even..weird!
Karls family has just told me that they are not coming now. A week to go. Des was in tears, as was I. We never had the fancy wedding or housewarming or showers...this is all I have asked of them. I was heartbroken!!! They are upset because I invited Karls dad , who they all hate. I did because he IS family, and alone, and he helped us when we needed it to buy this damn house. I'm sticking to my guns. I am right.
I have endured alot of shitty xmases for my family. Thats what family does. We do things that are uncomfortable for those we love.
One year my mom told me that her mother would not come if a cetain child molesting cousin wasn't invited. I told my ma that I wouldn't come home to sit across from a man who molested me and be able to eat. She started crying and said she felt torn between her mother (who she didn;'t want to be alone) and me. I caved. I love my mom, I came home, ate , smiled and left knowing that I made her happy.
Not to say that Karls dad is a molester or anything..hes a nice guy who just happens to be a bit of a pompous ass..hey we all have faults haha! He never did anything to deserve to be alone is the point anyway...
So thats what is shakin. I am moving full steam ahead with all the plans I had anyway. FOOK THEM! IF they don't show then I will know where we stand and whoever does come will be accepted in as family does. We will see how it goes.
I will not them ruin this for me. I set the emotional tone for my little ones. I stopped crying and got back in the spirit again, even though Karls family may not be here, we will soldier on and make do with at least half of their extending family (mine) will be here and I hear Santa is still coming...
I bet you all have these kinds of things happen too...
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grum09:
yah i own the tat shop , that is why im there everyday, plus there are 2 new people so i like to make sure everything runs good ... as well as im always booked up so i kinda have to be there. 
scullyt:
Happy ChristmaHanaKwanzakah!!
