tritone

Rage issues are only compounded when coupled with allowing one's self to be a doormat. However, notice that I only advocated telling the offending party she would punch his dick, not actually following through. It's an attention grabber. Should it actually be a situation where violence became appropriate, given her diminutive size I'd recommend a knee to the groin or a fist to the larnyx, whichever is more accessible.

I think you're confusing rage with animosity. If it were rage, there would be no conversation, there would be violence, pure and simple, because rage is a violent thing. As it stands, if she does, as she says she does, frequently capitulate to avoid conflict, then conflict resolution becomes a far more difficult creature. Asserting one's self to another who is also assertive and self-defensive creates a conflict anyway. Being rational isn't going to work when the person you're trying to rationalize with is operating under one primary guideline - "I'm not wrong, and if you disagree, too bad".

And who knows, maybe an occasional punch to the dick might make that someone pause and rethink their position and at least attempt to engage in a more quality dialogue open to ideas other than their own.