My so called friend K is starting to get on my nerves. She is starting to get on my nerves for real now, and considering my constant mood of edgy frustration it is all I can do not to snap at her. She had quite a lot of personality normally, and this could be enough to set you off, but now it is mainly because of what went on during the summer.
Not so much because of what she did, as how she handled it.
Now, bad things happen. Anyone can fall for a taken man, and accidents can happen. I am certainly not innocent myself. There might come a time when you will have to choose between passion and propriety, when love is worth fighting for and when it is time to let go. Even though it might not be appropriate does not mean that it is not right. There may come a time when you have to choose between letting your love go and allow it to put you between a settled couple, where you in the worst case scenario find yourself having an affair behind somebody's back. Still, whatever the situation you have to take a step back and see the whole picture before you do anything irrational. To come between an engaged couple, sure, it will be ugly and painful and certainly not pleasant but if you are sure enough about it then maybe it is was for the best. Perhaps you can build something bigger and better together.You just got to deal with it.
But you have got to be DAMN sure that it is the right thing to do before you go in and start messing with a FAMILY WITH CHILDREN - and especially if you are in for anything else than just sex. Before you even think about getting involved with a man with a child, especially if the youngest child hasn't even gotten her first teeth, you should be serious enough to be prepared to be a part of that child's life for the next eighteen years. If you want to replace mommy you'd better be ready to step up to the plate.
I doubt K ever even considered that. She did not hesitate to put two little childrens' family at stake just because she wanted some booty. To her the babies were props, small human pets, that could when needed be put in a box until next time you felt the maternal instincts picking.
What I originally thought was just casuall sex, wasn't just once or twice. She was well into convincing him, or at least herself, that they were "in love". They met every chance they got, which might sound classic but you should know that this is a small city and our network even smaller. They even lived less than two hundred meters away from eachother. The more time passed the more freaky stuff started piling up, things that just weren't right. Then she she had the nerves to try and play the blame game with me for not taking her side.
Even when he was finally out of her reach and I thought it would all be over, she still didn't let it go. I would have let this one slide for a mistake, if she hadn't had the nerves to come back from her vacation in Sweden a month later and with a sappy story about how she had run into an old friend from Lund and after a week suddenly "realized" that she was in love with him, and then kept talking about how much she missed him and how bummed out she was about him not having booked plane tickets to come visit not a week after her return.
A boyfriend who, as it appears, happen to be the love of her life since many years to one of her closest friends. When she was confronted with the news that two days earlier something "had just happened" between Kristina and her crush, she had simply pointed at the door and said "Out of my house."
Neither this fact seemed to make any sort of impression on Kristina who commented the whole affair with a simple statement.
"Well, I think she has always been more depending on me than I have been on her anyway. If she can't accept this it is her problem."
This is not even adding to the fact that the word on the street is that she had also paid a certain guy a visit on the same trip. A guy whose family I doubt knew.
Several things about this are to me very disturbing. She didn't ever seem to reflect on the fact that if they got caught there would be two little children who would probably lose their father. She would be a huge influence in their life, and the direct reason they didn't have a whole family. Even more appalling is the fact that she apparently wasn't more serious than that she had found herself a new boyfriend within less than six weeks.
I don't know why I didn't tell her. I guess it is because of the children. Since they were leaving to a new country I was hoping that it would be a brand new start for them, and that they would be able to build something good once out of this destructive environment. If me shutting my mouth leaves her kids with a decent family, I guess it is not a big sacrifice to make. Had she not had those kids I would have had no doubts in my mind about telling her.
In the end it is not what she does, it is how she does it. She had no problems betraying a mother and two children for booty. She had no problem finding a new boyfriend in a matter of weeks, and in the process crossing right over one of her close friends boundaries and break her heart by snuggling with her crush, and then act surprised when she was upset.
Now she is mad at me for some reason, and apparently she has spilled this over to some of the other girls who have seemed to be a bit distant to me lately. I honestly couldn't care less. If she wants to talk about me and share with the other girls how I have become such a bitch then she might go well ahead for my part. If anyone ever asks all I can do is tell them to ask K if she knows any reason why I would be reluctant to hang with her, and if that reason would be justified. The only people whose opinion I care about are the ones that are already my homies, and will remain so until I leave.
For all its clichs, she is not the person who I thought she was. I don't trust her for a second.
Not so much because of what she did, as how she handled it.
Now, bad things happen. Anyone can fall for a taken man, and accidents can happen. I am certainly not innocent myself. There might come a time when you will have to choose between passion and propriety, when love is worth fighting for and when it is time to let go. Even though it might not be appropriate does not mean that it is not right. There may come a time when you have to choose between letting your love go and allow it to put you between a settled couple, where you in the worst case scenario find yourself having an affair behind somebody's back. Still, whatever the situation you have to take a step back and see the whole picture before you do anything irrational. To come between an engaged couple, sure, it will be ugly and painful and certainly not pleasant but if you are sure enough about it then maybe it is was for the best. Perhaps you can build something bigger and better together.You just got to deal with it.
But you have got to be DAMN sure that it is the right thing to do before you go in and start messing with a FAMILY WITH CHILDREN - and especially if you are in for anything else than just sex. Before you even think about getting involved with a man with a child, especially if the youngest child hasn't even gotten her first teeth, you should be serious enough to be prepared to be a part of that child's life for the next eighteen years. If you want to replace mommy you'd better be ready to step up to the plate.
I doubt K ever even considered that. She did not hesitate to put two little childrens' family at stake just because she wanted some booty. To her the babies were props, small human pets, that could when needed be put in a box until next time you felt the maternal instincts picking.
What I originally thought was just casuall sex, wasn't just once or twice. She was well into convincing him, or at least herself, that they were "in love". They met every chance they got, which might sound classic but you should know that this is a small city and our network even smaller. They even lived less than two hundred meters away from eachother. The more time passed the more freaky stuff started piling up, things that just weren't right. Then she she had the nerves to try and play the blame game with me for not taking her side.
Even when he was finally out of her reach and I thought it would all be over, she still didn't let it go. I would have let this one slide for a mistake, if she hadn't had the nerves to come back from her vacation in Sweden a month later and with a sappy story about how she had run into an old friend from Lund and after a week suddenly "realized" that she was in love with him, and then kept talking about how much she missed him and how bummed out she was about him not having booked plane tickets to come visit not a week after her return.
A boyfriend who, as it appears, happen to be the love of her life since many years to one of her closest friends. When she was confronted with the news that two days earlier something "had just happened" between Kristina and her crush, she had simply pointed at the door and said "Out of my house."
Neither this fact seemed to make any sort of impression on Kristina who commented the whole affair with a simple statement.
"Well, I think she has always been more depending on me than I have been on her anyway. If she can't accept this it is her problem."
This is not even adding to the fact that the word on the street is that she had also paid a certain guy a visit on the same trip. A guy whose family I doubt knew.
Several things about this are to me very disturbing. She didn't ever seem to reflect on the fact that if they got caught there would be two little children who would probably lose their father. She would be a huge influence in their life, and the direct reason they didn't have a whole family. Even more appalling is the fact that she apparently wasn't more serious than that she had found herself a new boyfriend within less than six weeks.
I don't know why I didn't tell her. I guess it is because of the children. Since they were leaving to a new country I was hoping that it would be a brand new start for them, and that they would be able to build something good once out of this destructive environment. If me shutting my mouth leaves her kids with a decent family, I guess it is not a big sacrifice to make. Had she not had those kids I would have had no doubts in my mind about telling her.
In the end it is not what she does, it is how she does it. She had no problems betraying a mother and two children for booty. She had no problem finding a new boyfriend in a matter of weeks, and in the process crossing right over one of her close friends boundaries and break her heart by snuggling with her crush, and then act surprised when she was upset.
Now she is mad at me for some reason, and apparently she has spilled this over to some of the other girls who have seemed to be a bit distant to me lately. I honestly couldn't care less. If she wants to talk about me and share with the other girls how I have become such a bitch then she might go well ahead for my part. If anyone ever asks all I can do is tell them to ask K if she knows any reason why I would be reluctant to hang with her, and if that reason would be justified. The only people whose opinion I care about are the ones that are already my homies, and will remain so until I leave.
For all its clichs, she is not the person who I thought she was. I don't trust her for a second.