So we have a friend who technically has epilepsy. Has for years, but he had surgery that removed part of his brain, so now he doesn't have seizures anymore. Which is completely awesome, now he feels more normal, he can watch whatever movies/videogames he wants, he can drive, he doesn't live in fear of when the next seizure will come. It's really sad though, because for years, in school (because kids are so mean) he got teased...a lot. They called him names, said he was a freak, even called him a retard. So much so in fact, that the word "retard" is like nails on a chalkboard with him now.
I understand this, and not a lot of his friends do. They figure he should be able to just let it go because he's not like that anymore, and there's not a sane person in the world that would think he was "retarded". I know you can't just let stuff go sometimes. See, to me "fat" is like "retard" is to him. I'm not saying I'm not fat anymore, cuz I've put on some lbs, and I never did get really skinny anyway. But I am 120lbs smaller now that I was at my heaviest weight before my weight loss surgery. And when my friends and I are out and about, and we happen to see a girl or guy who weighs about what I used to, or more, or even a bit less, and they quietly make a remark about it, it hurts my feelings to no end. They would never, and have never been outwardly mean to people about it, if they were, they wouldn't BE my friends, but everyone makes snide remarks when they know other people can't hear them. And when they do, it feels as though I balloon right back up again, and they're saying it to my face.
I've shared this with Jeff once before briefly. He didn't get it. He's always been "normal". He just laughs it off saying "baby, you're not like that anymore...we're not talking to you". And I'm not blaming anyone, lord knows I'm not an angel when it comes to making fun of people I don't know behind their backs (when your ass crack is hanging out more than like 3 inches, you're totally asking for it btw). But that doesn't change the fact that something in my brain just doesn't like it.
Anyway, now that I've bored you all to death, if anyone even reads this...I'll say goodbye. But before I do, is there a certain word, or phrase, that can hurt your feelings or bug you without it being directed toward you?
I understand this, and not a lot of his friends do. They figure he should be able to just let it go because he's not like that anymore, and there's not a sane person in the world that would think he was "retarded". I know you can't just let stuff go sometimes. See, to me "fat" is like "retard" is to him. I'm not saying I'm not fat anymore, cuz I've put on some lbs, and I never did get really skinny anyway. But I am 120lbs smaller now that I was at my heaviest weight before my weight loss surgery. And when my friends and I are out and about, and we happen to see a girl or guy who weighs about what I used to, or more, or even a bit less, and they quietly make a remark about it, it hurts my feelings to no end. They would never, and have never been outwardly mean to people about it, if they were, they wouldn't BE my friends, but everyone makes snide remarks when they know other people can't hear them. And when they do, it feels as though I balloon right back up again, and they're saying it to my face.
I've shared this with Jeff once before briefly. He didn't get it. He's always been "normal". He just laughs it off saying "baby, you're not like that anymore...we're not talking to you". And I'm not blaming anyone, lord knows I'm not an angel when it comes to making fun of people I don't know behind their backs (when your ass crack is hanging out more than like 3 inches, you're totally asking for it btw). But that doesn't change the fact that something in my brain just doesn't like it.
Anyway, now that I've bored you all to death, if anyone even reads this...I'll say goodbye. But before I do, is there a certain word, or phrase, that can hurt your feelings or bug you without it being directed toward you?
And anything derrogative about gays, men or women. That kind of hatred breaks my heart. I've been guilty of similar things in the past, saying things like, "Oh, that's so gay." in reference to something I didn't like, which is far from harmless, but Im talking about words like "faggot" and "dyke". Those words make me see red...
On a lighter note, are you still coming to the good old LC tomorrow? Txt me and let me know