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I am sorry to interrupt the hug blog. If you want to check out the latest installment, just back to the last entry. It is easy to do.

This has been on my mind for the past week. When I was at tea with friend last Friday, we were talking about one of the attendees being a funeral director and then death in general. Then one of the attendees made a comment that saying "When I meet someone who has lost someone and I don't care about them, I don't know what to say really. I am not going to say 'I'm sorry for you loss', which is the normal response engrained in most peoples heads because that is what society wants to you say. And there is no point in really saying it, because it doesn't really help the person you are saying it to really."

This statement he made didn't sit well with me. At the time I didn't care to voice my opinion, because the guy who said it doesn't really care about my opinions in the first place and saying it wouldn't change anything. But I still take offense to that statement. I think it is because I always say 'I'm sorry for you loss' whenever I see that someone has lost someone or thing they cared about. Be it a relative, spouse, dog, wallet, etc. I don't say it because that is what society wants me to say, I say it because I feel is it the right thing to say.

I say it because what I really mean is "I am sorry for your loss. If there is anything I can do for you, or if you want to cry on my shoulder, I am here for you. Just let me know." But that is really a long thing to type out every time, so I short hand it and hope they get why I am saying it. I am a person of very little words, and I usually can't find the words sometimes, I write what I can.

I say it because I want to let the person who did lose that connection with a beloved person, pet or object that there is still people in this world that care about them. I know it sounds funny, but I do care about everyone. Perfect strangers, family, friends and even my enemies. You would have to do something really bad to me for me to stop caring about your well being. We are all on this big ball of matter called earth together, and it can seem like a lonely place when you lose something you care about. I want to make sure that we are all taken care of.

I understand why this person would make that statement, as he really doesn't care about too much in his life. Himself, his daughter, his close friends and his girlfriend. Everyone else can just go off and die because they are not worthy. I can respect that he will not so sympathy when in fact he does not feel it. I would rather someone express what they feel rather express what society should think they should feel. He is quite reliable in that respect.

For me, I have to say it. I can't let anyone feel bad if I can help it. I think this spouts from me wanting to be the hero, wanting to protect everything in the world and know that there are part of this world that are worth saving.

So, if I have ever wrote "I'm sorry for your loss" on one of your blogs, I mean it.

With that...

I am sorry for you loss.