So last night that girl Melanie I had been talking about, came over to hang out. We played playstation and then watched "From Hell." During the movie we started to make out, but we didn't stop and ended up fucking.
I was proud of myself because I gave her three orgasms and that is with me being celibate for four and a half years before her. But like every other girl I have been with the first time for us I didn't get to cum.
Anyway she spent the night and I got only like an hour sleep because I have a really hard time sleeping with someone else in the bed.
... But I had posted earlier that I didn't feel a spark with her. Well now that we have screwed it just makes it even more obvious to me that this girl isn't girlfriend potential. She was talking to her ex last night and today and I wasn't jealous, I don't look forward to seeing her (she is cool and I like hanging with her but when she comes around it feels more like one of my guy friends is around) and all I wanted today was for her to go somewhere else so I could get some sleep.
I guess you get the idea. I have to figure out how to tell her this without coming off like a complete asshole who was just looking to get laid. I would like her to keep coming over to hang out, but without expectations of us being together.
Help!??
I was proud of myself because I gave her three orgasms and that is with me being celibate for four and a half years before her. But like every other girl I have been with the first time for us I didn't get to cum.
Anyway she spent the night and I got only like an hour sleep because I have a really hard time sleeping with someone else in the bed.
... But I had posted earlier that I didn't feel a spark with her. Well now that we have screwed it just makes it even more obvious to me that this girl isn't girlfriend potential. She was talking to her ex last night and today and I wasn't jealous, I don't look forward to seeing her (she is cool and I like hanging with her but when she comes around it feels more like one of my guy friends is around) and all I wanted today was for her to go somewhere else so I could get some sleep.
I guess you get the idea. I have to figure out how to tell her this without coming off like a complete asshole who was just looking to get laid. I would like her to keep coming over to hang out, but without expectations of us being together.
Help!??
A day with sex is a good day indeed. Good for you. It's nice to get a screw every now and then.
Hmmm, as for your delima... It's quite a doozy. The only thing I can say for sure is that honosty, though brutal at times, is the best policy.
You can tell her that you're not really the kind of guy to have casual sex, but that she had such an impact on your emotions that she made you slip her the dick. You can say that though she had a profound effect on you for one night, the two of you as a couple would never make it. You could lay out a "friendship-with-benefits" type of relationship with her. See if she goes for that. Then you two can remain friends and you never have to take advantage of the "benefits" if you don't want to.
Just be a nice guy. Be a friend to this chick. Let her know exactly what that night meant to you and what you'd personally like the future to hold. Tell her what you told us in your journal.
Just be nice I guess. Personally. I've never been in this situation. I don't envy your position either. Whatever. Sleep on it (alone).
-Mike
Does that sound mean? Am I betraying the female species??