the_shine

You realise you are actually an adult when you start going to people you know's weddings.

Now I have nothing against wedding at all. I do tend to judge them harshly because for almost 2 years every Saturday and almost every Sunday I had was spent working at them. So I have seen almost every variety. One thing I do hate however when it comes to these 'events' are the unwritten rules. You know like speech's hymns photo's , ushers etc. The thing with unwritten rules are well..... they arent written down , so when someone doesnt stick to them some people get annoyed. Which is iterally pointless. The whole 'It's the most special day of your life' etc but as long as you play byhe majority rules.

All of the above being said there is an even larger no-no when it comes to other peoples nuptuals , which is telling the happy couple inviting you that you dont want to go in the first place. Guess who done that?? Now to keep this as short as can be . I got a phone call from the Groom

Groom : 'Hey just checking who you are bringing to my wedding?'

Me: 'Oh I'm not going mate'

Now out of the happy couple ( I really must stop saying that , it sounds so spitefull) the groom is my connection to the event itself. He is/was depending on who you asking good mates with my good mate. Quite literally a friend of a friend. Now I know the only reason he invited me to his wedding is because so's not to upset anyone or make me feel left out. When in reality I am now the bad guy because I said I am not going.

To clarify my reasons for this , to which there are many but mainly I came up with this idea about a year back of essentailly as often as possible only doing what I want to do. Obviously I can do it all the time but I try and apply it for whenever I can and this is a classic example. The 'girls' out of my circle of friends mostly automatically turned on me saying I was rude for refusing his invite and perhaps I was. But in my mind trying to book a weekend off work , buying a new suit , getting a present , then staying overnight in a hotel where the cheapest room was150 just aint worth the hassle for a guy I only see at other peoples brithday parties!!

Plus one thing I reaise when it comes to weddings is less than a week after it no-one evers mentions it again unless some epic event happens , like there's a drunk older relative , or someone shags someone they shouldnt at my mates Steve's wedding

Are my views on this wrong? Whats odd is several guys said they were only going because their g/f's were and envy'd my position!! I just dont see the point of going along with something just to suit everyone else or because it's expected!!.

But you know ask me. I may come to your wedding and I'll totally shag you cousin if her bf is away for the summer!!