the_matt79

I realize that since I only have 11 followers on tumblr that a lot of you haven't had the pleasure of reading some of the random things I have written later...you can thank me later, perhaps.

Need not fear....
I have come to realize that there is no need to fear fucking up, rather there is reason to embrace it.

Fucking up is a part of life, none of us will succeed at everything we do, none of us is perfect, and it is better to have tried something and fucked up than to not have tried at all.

Now I am not saying that doing something utterly ridiculous or stupid and fucking up is to be embraced, but rather that life in general should be tried, should be experienced, should be lived. It is through this trying, this experiencing, this living that we decipher what we are good at, what we love, what we can do to insure the kind of life we want.

Through trying and failing we find out what we cannot do, we find out where not to look, we find out what to move away from.

Step one is trying something, step to is finding out if you succeed or if you fail, step three is continuing on if you succeed or stopping if you fail. If you fail go back to step one and try something new. If you succeed then proceed.

If someone thinks of you as a fuck up, or tells you as much, look at that for what it isan answer to a question you hopefully have asked yourself at some point. That question being, what should I do, who am I.

If youre fucking up, dont let it drag you down, let it point you in the right direction.

Smile enducers
In life you will meet people that without trying can bring a smile to your face through the most basic of actions find these people, form a fence around them, and dont let them go.

Try to do the same for them, because in your most down of times they will be there, they will listen, and eventually they will have you laughing.

As you meet people you can decide to be this type of person, you do it by listening to what is important to them and remembering it, you do it by hearing their wishes and dreams and figuring out ways to help push them towards them, you do it by living a life as optimistically as possible (not always easy I know) and through this optimism showing that it really can be a good world to exist in.

It shouldnt be a forced thing or a struggle if done right, there is an ease to it that comes from honestly caring about another person, caring and helping, helping and being, being there when needed, and most importantly when not.

If you have people like this, keep them close, if you have friends that need one, be one.

Identity
Sometimes I wonder what makes up my identity, is it the stuff I have, the clothes I wear, the things I read

As I get older and I learn more about myself, I learn more about my identity, and I think that the things around me dont form my identity so much as my identity attracts the things around me.

All to often in my life I tried to fit in a niche, a group, something, but after a while I finally decided to be me and see where I fit in, and I think that might have been the best decision of all.

I have some of the best friends a guy could want, I have good relationships with my family, and I like who I am.

That is my identity.

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