So my roommate and I thinking about having a Halloween party. There's this guy I know, sort of a friend, I guess. He's even more of a nerd than I am. Anyway, he had a cookout at the beginning of the summer and passed out flyers/invitations to everyone and basically said that no one except those he invited could come. No biggie. A few weeks ago, some of our friends had a party. The guy was there, and he brought a bottle of Goldshlagger (sp) at least. Thing is, he doesn't drink, which is fine, but he sits on the sofa sipping his Vanilla Pepsi and laughing at all the stupid stuff everyone does when they get drunk on the shots of Gold and vodka and champagne and beer and everything else. Lots of drama that night, at least 4 people were puking.
Back to the original point. This guy tells me that I AM going to have a Halloween party (half-seriously), and today he tells me that he's been inviting people to my party, which is fine.
I dunno, I guess he's harmless, but there's something weird about this need to create entertainment for himself. I'm supposed to be at a party he'll be at tomorrow, we'll see what he brings. I guess it is nice to bring things to a party.
Maybe I'm just being judgmental. I just don't like the idea of him coming to my party, making sure every gets trashed, and then skipping out when the babysitting and clean-up kicks in.
Back to the original point. This guy tells me that I AM going to have a Halloween party (half-seriously), and today he tells me that he's been inviting people to my party, which is fine.
I dunno, I guess he's harmless, but there's something weird about this need to create entertainment for himself. I'm supposed to be at a party he'll be at tomorrow, we'll see what he brings. I guess it is nice to bring things to a party.
Maybe I'm just being judgmental. I just don't like the idea of him coming to my party, making sure every gets trashed, and then skipping out when the babysitting and clean-up kicks in.
he is not hosting.
Why don't you suggest that it would be better to have the
Halloween party at his house?
Why don't you insist upon it...be as insistant as he has been
in imposing upon you?
I have lost so much time and energy out of not following my
instincts; instead I have established relationships with people out of a misplaced sense of social obligation...and been drained by it.
Every reason he gives not to have the party at his place, counter it with a reason not to give it at yours...
he will then stop bothering you, and then you can (discretly)
invite the people you like to your own party.
This is not your work life, this is your social life, you don't
have to make excuses for who you do/do not like. Just obey
your instincts.