Venting time.
I feel like I am 15 again and suddenly started getting the silent treatment from a girl I just started dating.
My mind races in a sudden plunge of imagination, terrible things I think the other person is thinking, constant flipping between thinking I am overreacting and thinking I am underreacting. Should I be trying to make more contact? Does this person want me to be assertive and try to make my case or do they want me to give them time to be less upset? Has their phone just died? Unlikely but could make me seem like a huge overreaction if it were the case. It's a no win situation in my head.
In general I tend to respond to people right away even if I am mad or still deciding how I feel, though really I rarely get mad and rarely need time to decide how I feel (which probably makes me extra bad at dealing with these situations). I do get a bit angry that people leave me in this sort of suspense, I'd much rather be confronted.
Over the years of running into this sort of thing from time to time I've gotten a bit better at visualizing the other side of it, whether the other person is mad, hurt, bored, annoyed or just randomly busy, but I'm still absolutely terrible at waiting to hear back from people. I can't sleep, get a stomach ache and generally become unproductive, it feels pretty pathetic.
That's me right now, fucking typical. Here's to hoping I'm overreacting.
Also, I just finished the book I was reading, so now I need to start another if I want to use that to fall asleep. :/
Anyway, usually better by morning.
I feel like I am 15 again and suddenly started getting the silent treatment from a girl I just started dating.
My mind races in a sudden plunge of imagination, terrible things I think the other person is thinking, constant flipping between thinking I am overreacting and thinking I am underreacting. Should I be trying to make more contact? Does this person want me to be assertive and try to make my case or do they want me to give them time to be less upset? Has their phone just died? Unlikely but could make me seem like a huge overreaction if it were the case. It's a no win situation in my head.
In general I tend to respond to people right away even if I am mad or still deciding how I feel, though really I rarely get mad and rarely need time to decide how I feel (which probably makes me extra bad at dealing with these situations). I do get a bit angry that people leave me in this sort of suspense, I'd much rather be confronted.
Over the years of running into this sort of thing from time to time I've gotten a bit better at visualizing the other side of it, whether the other person is mad, hurt, bored, annoyed or just randomly busy, but I'm still absolutely terrible at waiting to hear back from people. I can't sleep, get a stomach ache and generally become unproductive, it feels pretty pathetic.
That's me right now, fucking typical. Here's to hoping I'm overreacting.
Also, I just finished the book I was reading, so now I need to start another if I want to use that to fall asleep. :/
Anyway, usually better by morning.