so i'm getting married in april (2008). Everything has pretty much been decided upon except who will be invited. here's my dilemma. do i invite my mother and her husband or not?
One the one hand she's my mom... and i really don't want to hurt her (which not inviting her will do) plus the part of me that loves her and that wants to be a good daughter thinks that i'll want her there. but the part of me that's been dealing with her shit for the past few years doesn't.
next is: i hate her husband... my stepfather. He's a manipulative, abusive, ignorant asshole. And when mom's around him she's terrible, not herself. She lets him do/say whatever he wants cause if he's not happy then she has to deal with his shit.
And next is that she doesn't want me getting married....she treats me like i'm 12 and because she missed out on my childhood because she was having fun she thinks that she can somehow get it back now. It's pretty common knowlege that she doesn't really like max.. she puts on an act but she was never that good of an actress.
and at the moment she's pissed at me for something but won't say what it is. I don't know what i even did. I'm thinking it's leftover rage from the shit my brother pulled but because she can't bitch at him she's doing it at me. I hate how in my family it's always been take it out on whoever is there, not the person you're actually mad at.
so then, i guess it's pretty much settled to not invite them. ...and there's still the part of me that feels guilty but i'll just have to get used to that i guess.... i don't know. fuck! well at least i have time right?
the only real issue with it is i'm inviting janet and bradley. I've known janet since i was a kid and she used to be my mom's best friend... see the issue... since we moved from zama they only talk a couple times a year.... and getting her to not tell my mother might be an issue.... see she hates my mom's husband
always has always will. but she hasn't actually seen my mom in about 4 years now... so she doesn't know what kind of person she has become.
sorry to keep going on. i just needed to type it out.
inviting mom only won't work because then the husband will be pissed and won't let her go. She'll be pissed at me cause i didn't invite the both of them.
She's still refuses to believe that i don't like him. She has forgotten and is ignoring pretty much all of the bad shit that he has pulled.
anywayz, so yea, i guess i just won't invite them, and then if it comes up just tell mom that we decided to do a quick little thing.... very spur of the moment, and prep janet for it. I mean it's not like mom and janet will see each other after... brad (the husband) hates janet so... yea.
ok i feel better now. in case anyone is wondering why i'm worrying when i've got like 9 months to go... cause i need to figure out how much it's all going to cost so i can come up with a saving plan so we'll be able to pay for it. fun eh?
One the one hand she's my mom... and i really don't want to hurt her (which not inviting her will do) plus the part of me that loves her and that wants to be a good daughter thinks that i'll want her there. but the part of me that's been dealing with her shit for the past few years doesn't.
next is: i hate her husband... my stepfather. He's a manipulative, abusive, ignorant asshole. And when mom's around him she's terrible, not herself. She lets him do/say whatever he wants cause if he's not happy then she has to deal with his shit.
And next is that she doesn't want me getting married....she treats me like i'm 12 and because she missed out on my childhood because she was having fun she thinks that she can somehow get it back now. It's pretty common knowlege that she doesn't really like max.. she puts on an act but she was never that good of an actress.
and at the moment she's pissed at me for something but won't say what it is. I don't know what i even did. I'm thinking it's leftover rage from the shit my brother pulled but because she can't bitch at him she's doing it at me. I hate how in my family it's always been take it out on whoever is there, not the person you're actually mad at.
so then, i guess it's pretty much settled to not invite them. ...and there's still the part of me that feels guilty but i'll just have to get used to that i guess.... i don't know. fuck! well at least i have time right?
the only real issue with it is i'm inviting janet and bradley. I've known janet since i was a kid and she used to be my mom's best friend... see the issue... since we moved from zama they only talk a couple times a year.... and getting her to not tell my mother might be an issue.... see she hates my mom's husband
always has always will. but she hasn't actually seen my mom in about 4 years now... so she doesn't know what kind of person she has become.
sorry to keep going on. i just needed to type it out.
inviting mom only won't work because then the husband will be pissed and won't let her go. She'll be pissed at me cause i didn't invite the both of them.
She's still refuses to believe that i don't like him. She has forgotten and is ignoring pretty much all of the bad shit that he has pulled.
anywayz, so yea, i guess i just won't invite them, and then if it comes up just tell mom that we decided to do a quick little thing.... very spur of the moment, and prep janet for it. I mean it's not like mom and janet will see each other after... brad (the husband) hates janet so... yea.
ok i feel better now. in case anyone is wondering why i'm worrying when i've got like 9 months to go... cause i need to figure out how much it's all going to cost so i can come up with a saving plan so we'll be able to pay for it. fun eh?