Honesty. Honesty sure can create a mess sometimes, but only when there's fear involved. Fear is the same source energy as love, only it's being run through definitions that fail to serve us. I used to be afraid of zombies and sharks. Then I learned how to be a bad ass zombie killer and that sharks are my friends, friend that I'll punch in the face if they try to bite me. Kinda similar to zombies, yet I will always use a bludgeoning weapon with a zombie.
Point being: it's time to be honest. Be real and authentic and honest and kind and considerate. Be honest and speak your truth without being a dick or an asshole. Which means no fucking someone without consent and no fucking yourself either. Just fucking be honest.