It will be a good cry, I promise, and it will help a bit with the exhaustion, after a nap.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YbgnlkJPga4
lizablue:
Nice
Hi!
You know those times, especially in emotional discussions, where you see something, jump in with a reply, and then later you realize, what you said was dumb?
Here's a method I've been using to prevent myself from doing that.
1) Bookmark https://e.ggtimer.com/5%20minutes
2) When you want to reply to something, open that page in a fresh tab, then tab back to what you are...
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username123456789:
This is good to know! I tend to just say what’s on my mind without filter and that sometimes leads to hurt feelings... I will look into this!!!
miyacemu:
I think this is the root of problems in modern discourse! It's why I don't do twitter, etc. I prefer ye oldie forums because they're built around longer form responses, which encourage some thought. So, unless I'm discussing something mundane, I do tend to give myself a few hours (at least) before hitting submit. It's purely self defensive though, as I sound like a complete moron if I don't give myself time to compose my words lol
Author J.K. Rowling has been involved in controversy of late for her tone deaf and in some cases hateful remarks about trans women, in particular, and transfolk in general.
Yesterday, she posted an essay to present her side of the story. You may find it here: https://www.jkrowling.com/opinions/j-k-rowling-writes-about-her-reasons-for-speaking-out-on-sex-and-gender-issues/
LGBTQNation summarized the essay with this: "tl;dr -- Transgender people were mean to her on social media. Her...
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miyacemu:
It is summaries like the one you shared from LGBTQNation which I think simply stifle debate by being overly reductive. Based on their summary, I expected an absolute horror show, which it was not. So, I agree wholeheartedly with your points on open and understanding discourse. It’s horrific that this is not the norm. The conversation revolving around TERFs interests me. Personally, I feel that labels like this are often unhelpful as I have observed them being applied in a way which simply shuts down conversation. For instance, Rowling mentions that it seems to be applied “a huge and diverse cross-section of women […] and the vast majority have never been radical feminists.” Then again, maybe I am ignorant and it is being applied to speech which really does need to be shut down? So, I am curious what is the correct application of this label? I find that a lot of terms being used in general discourse (such as TERF, or Gender Pay Gap) are being thrown about with very loose definitions, or where they are being used correctly they’re being thrown at people who have no reason to know the academic meaning and so cause misunderstanding.
strask:
That is a very thoughtful thing to say, and correct in many respects as was Rowlings mention of it. So here are my understandings about that: Firstly, not all women-who-have-something-against-transfolk are TERFs in any technical sense and it is wrong to use the term in a broad way like that. Totally agreed. The reason, I think, that people use this overbroad way of speaking, has to do with the fact that while many women have feelings that seem like they are in line with TERFs, the actual TERFs are the ones spreading the cultural fear, uncertainty, and doubt that leads to some of those perceptions. So, being a TERF is a form of activism, in my imagination, and while I approve of activism in general, I also think it is SO important that our activist energies be spent on making the world a brighter place, not objecting to people trying to be polite to other, marginalized people. Because that's what this is about. Trans women get so much abuse it is unreal. And for some people to realize that, and try to be better by using vocabulary that helps soothe sore feelings (and communicate accurate information), is amazing and wonderful. And for other folks to then in turn spend their activism energy on criticising the first other groups kindness, it just doesn't make sense to me.
In 1999, I was working at an American Express data center in north west phoenix. This was not just some random regional data center, this was THE American Express datacenter, responsible for ALL the card transactions and various other critical information systems. There were backup systems, of course, in the various regions... so that if communication lines went down things could limp along to various...
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strask:
Cute horse, @STCYR, thanks! <3
user1104201112:
amazing text !! congrats
Throughout my life, I have been fascinated by science, and have been successfully entertained on many occasions by science fiction. One work that I've enjoyed in recent years was the first season of Altered Carbon. For those not familiar, the series is about a future in which technology has been invented, to record a humans entire existence in the form of their brain/memories/thought process/personality, into...
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strask:
And hey... if anyone reading this has DID, and I got anything wrong, please do get in touch and make me correct it. I don't want to spread misinformation.
I love cats, especially my friend Ellen but also a room mate named Arwyn, and my former best friend Lucy (rest in peace), and all the cats that take care of my friends here on SG. Felines are lovely companions and what I love most about them is that they have very clear boundaries and ideas about consent. If a cat doesn't want you to...
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pistache:
I'm a cat Lol
strask:
Thank you Pistache, I am actually a cat too. :)
I love everyone, and I know you mean the best for people, and I know you want to help. But some people are just fucked up and lost and beyond help, and I don't want the rest of you to get bogged down trying to assist the ones who are beyond hope.
The good news is, nobody (who-is-alive) is beyond hope/help in all ways. Some...
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strask:
It is a couple months after I wrote the above, and I just want to add: If you are reading this and you think "I am just fucked up and lost" or "I am damaged beyond repair", you are not. You are able to be helped. You can help yourself, and you can find others to help you. The people I was talking about, the ones who are beyond help... they don't even know that they need help. If you are hurting and need help, you deserve it and are worthy of love an assistance as much as anyone else. Don't give up hope, please keep searching for people to love you.
Ok, I've only just finished watching the second episode but it is amazing. And, since it had been sitting in my netflix to-watch list for more than a year (maybe closer to two?) because the advertisements weren't very convincing, I checked out some reviews at rottentomatos etc and they were as close to 100% positive as a show can get. In fact, I think season...
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user1104201112:
agree !!!!
Hi all you lovely SG peoples!
I'm posting here a sanitized to protect various identities version of a long sequence of text messages I sent to my best friend about a month ago. I'm not currently suicidal and as you will note at the beginning of what follows, I'm generally able to seek help when I am. But as a content warning, the below goes...
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For context: https://www.eurogamer.net/articles/2019-08-30-two-women-accuse-cultist-simulator-developer-alexis-kennedy-of-exploitative-behaviour
Alexis Kennedy was probably my favourite currently-working-in-the-industry game writer. I've gotten vast enjoyment out of his work in Cultist Simulator and Stellaris, and that prompted me to play Sunless Sea and I even started on Fallen London briefly while waiting eagerly for Book of Hours to get underway.
So when I saw the allegations against him (essentially, that he's made a habit...
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I'm high right now, not to a completely stupid degree but still, pretty high.
Our history's a vacant lot littered with empty bank accounts
Sobbing parents, broken bones
Glorious songs, lengthy prison terms
A handful of moments that were truly our own
In between desperate gasping for air worth breathing and times worth living
And I'm listening to The Volatile Utopian Real Estate Market by...
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