where to start. So much drama in the almost 5 months of Grace's life here on Earth already. Good thing though is that she wont remember any of this later in life.
a little who's who
Jesse - Grace's father
Lisa - Jesse's mother & grace's grandmother
Ryan- Jesse's step-father and grace's step grandfather
Amy- Jesse's sister and Grace's Aunt
long story short
this side of the family has never been supportive of their own son nor their grand daughter.
the entire time i was pregnant they never once reached out to us. i reached out to them doing the right thing and being the bigger person by letting them know how the pregnancy was going. when i texted Lisa the sex of our child her response was " thats nice"
Once Grace was born i would make trips for a few days an stay with them to let them bond and get to know grace. not once did they ever buy the essentials that a baby needs like diapers wipes formula baby water ect.
I provided both their house and mine with everything. mind you i havent had a job in over 2 years now. and the money i did have was a birthday present from my grandparents that i have saved up and added to.
shit finally hit the fan when
Jesse was asking for his parents SSN's to apply for food stamps b/c here in the state of FL if you live with your folks or anyone you need to add their information and income into the application so the gov knows your not trying to fuck them over.
understandable.
but Lisa told him to get a job instead of food stamps... Lisa is jobless as well all 3 of us have been looking very hard to find one but there just isnt any in the area we live in.
When she told him that i flipped my lid an let all issues ive had so far come out an hit the fan.
I probably shouldnt have let my anger get the better of me but i did and i dont regret it.
the lady has no idea what to do with a baby an she's had 2 of her own. she has tried giving my child things that a baby should not be given until way older and has tried over heating my child several times and allows her to sit in a pissy diaper for longer then should on top of tryin to make my child sleep in a bed full of suffocation hazards and not to mention her 3 huge dogs who are rambunctious and too hyper to be around a small child.
all of which i have tried to correct an explain. My biggest problem with this lady is that she assumes instead of asking. i am always at least 2-6 feet away even when im outside smoking. i never leave my child alone with this side of the family b/c they all have serious drinking problems. i have even gone to the great lengths of writing how my child is to be taken care of. i know it sounds a bit much but these ppl are honestly retarded. and thats putting it nicely. i have given them almost 5 months to learn and adapt and what have you and they havent changed a bit in the least to try an better what they do how they do things an better themselves for Grace.
yesterday i finally threw my hands up and said i was done.
I will no longer allow them to be apart of me & my childs lives. they have nothing to offer us but negativity and drama. i want what is best for my child and the environment they surround themselves with is not ideal for a child of any age.
Sad thing is ... is that Jesse, Grace's Father was kicked out last night for not standing up for his mommy... ( im sorry but shes a grown women you shouldnt make your child fight your battles. it would be different if there wasnt a child involved i guess. ) Now if thats the kind of "family" they are.... then thats not the kind of family i want for my child.
okay end of ranting .
2day is a new day and the beginning of a new chapter in our lives.
Lets hope for the best !
a little who's who
Jesse - Grace's father
Lisa - Jesse's mother & grace's grandmother
Ryan- Jesse's step-father and grace's step grandfather
Amy- Jesse's sister and Grace's Aunt
long story short
this side of the family has never been supportive of their own son nor their grand daughter.
the entire time i was pregnant they never once reached out to us. i reached out to them doing the right thing and being the bigger person by letting them know how the pregnancy was going. when i texted Lisa the sex of our child her response was " thats nice"
Once Grace was born i would make trips for a few days an stay with them to let them bond and get to know grace. not once did they ever buy the essentials that a baby needs like diapers wipes formula baby water ect.
I provided both their house and mine with everything. mind you i havent had a job in over 2 years now. and the money i did have was a birthday present from my grandparents that i have saved up and added to.
shit finally hit the fan when
Jesse was asking for his parents SSN's to apply for food stamps b/c here in the state of FL if you live with your folks or anyone you need to add their information and income into the application so the gov knows your not trying to fuck them over.
understandable.
but Lisa told him to get a job instead of food stamps... Lisa is jobless as well all 3 of us have been looking very hard to find one but there just isnt any in the area we live in.
When she told him that i flipped my lid an let all issues ive had so far come out an hit the fan.
I probably shouldnt have let my anger get the better of me but i did and i dont regret it.
the lady has no idea what to do with a baby an she's had 2 of her own. she has tried giving my child things that a baby should not be given until way older and has tried over heating my child several times and allows her to sit in a pissy diaper for longer then should on top of tryin to make my child sleep in a bed full of suffocation hazards and not to mention her 3 huge dogs who are rambunctious and too hyper to be around a small child.
all of which i have tried to correct an explain. My biggest problem with this lady is that she assumes instead of asking. i am always at least 2-6 feet away even when im outside smoking. i never leave my child alone with this side of the family b/c they all have serious drinking problems. i have even gone to the great lengths of writing how my child is to be taken care of. i know it sounds a bit much but these ppl are honestly retarded. and thats putting it nicely. i have given them almost 5 months to learn and adapt and what have you and they havent changed a bit in the least to try an better what they do how they do things an better themselves for Grace.
yesterday i finally threw my hands up and said i was done.
I will no longer allow them to be apart of me & my childs lives. they have nothing to offer us but negativity and drama. i want what is best for my child and the environment they surround themselves with is not ideal for a child of any age.
Sad thing is ... is that Jesse, Grace's Father was kicked out last night for not standing up for his mommy... ( im sorry but shes a grown women you shouldnt make your child fight your battles. it would be different if there wasnt a child involved i guess. ) Now if thats the kind of "family" they are.... then thats not the kind of family i want for my child.
okay end of ranting .
2day is a new day and the beginning of a new chapter in our lives.
Lets hope for the best !
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you're doing the right thing
don't need those kind of people around you or your baby <3
makes you an even more awesome mom for taking these steps
Once she's at an age where she can fend for herself to some extent, like 5 or 6, then maybe re-introduce her to that side of the family. Until that, Be cautious....
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