A lot of the time communication is really hard to come by especially when it comes to relationships. So here I am attempting to pass out advice on relationships, listening to nero's 'innocence' when It dawns on me:
pay attention to this portion kiddies, it may help you.
Girls: often taught whether it be through media or even a jaded woman that all men are evil. That they conspire to fuck with out heads, that they are only thinking about one thing at all times...but the truth is... they aren't those vile creatures we paint to be. They think just the way we do, they often worry about if they are good enough or not for girls...and often are scared to even say something. REJECTION is a mans worst fear.
Guys: Home boys always tell horror stories about girls playing the field, often once again "fucking with their heads" Guys often get the wrong idea from girls, bc some girls are scared to let a guy down...Not only that, but a lot of the time some guys mistake a girls silence with standoffish moods... but a lot of the times... its not always the girl being standoffish... being quiet or "ignoring" is just a defense mechanism.. we mean no harm...we just get scared of...well... REJECTION.
misconception... misinterpretation and miscommunication.
thats all it is.
He acts one way, she acts another in his actions, he reacts, and she reacts, then it all becomes a mess and people get hurt.
I find myself understanding guys far better now, they arent horrid heartless creatures as we paint them to be...
they think like girls do, they fear everything girls do... only difference is how we each handle rejection, and giving rejection.
guys will straight up say, no im not interested..yet girls are afraid to hurt some so they say " i like you...but.."
so who is right in this? My vote goes to guys.
Although it hurts to hear it...wouldn't you rather know before you get deeper feelings? where as girls... if you tell a guy the "i like you but line..." we are giving them false hope..so girls.. knock that shit off. its rude.
Girls look into things way too much, they react too much to the smallest things...they jump to conclusions and assume that they are about to be rejected and they go on the offense..doing things in attempt to protect themselves...often..making the guy feel like.. they are being played...when they aren't
all these misconceptions are what is going to cost you someone you care about....
we have a mouth and a voice for a reason...use it. communicate how you feel instead of assuming. YOU WILL THANK ME LATER.
with that being said, happy holidays.
buy my love
pay attention to this portion kiddies, it may help you.
Girls: often taught whether it be through media or even a jaded woman that all men are evil. That they conspire to fuck with out heads, that they are only thinking about one thing at all times...but the truth is... they aren't those vile creatures we paint to be. They think just the way we do, they often worry about if they are good enough or not for girls...and often are scared to even say something. REJECTION is a mans worst fear.
Guys: Home boys always tell horror stories about girls playing the field, often once again "fucking with their heads" Guys often get the wrong idea from girls, bc some girls are scared to let a guy down...Not only that, but a lot of the time some guys mistake a girls silence with standoffish moods... but a lot of the times... its not always the girl being standoffish... being quiet or "ignoring" is just a defense mechanism.. we mean no harm...we just get scared of...well... REJECTION.
misconception... misinterpretation and miscommunication.
thats all it is.
He acts one way, she acts another in his actions, he reacts, and she reacts, then it all becomes a mess and people get hurt.
I find myself understanding guys far better now, they arent horrid heartless creatures as we paint them to be...
they think like girls do, they fear everything girls do... only difference is how we each handle rejection, and giving rejection.
guys will straight up say, no im not interested..yet girls are afraid to hurt some so they say " i like you...but.."
so who is right in this? My vote goes to guys.
Although it hurts to hear it...wouldn't you rather know before you get deeper feelings? where as girls... if you tell a guy the "i like you but line..." we are giving them false hope..so girls.. knock that shit off. its rude.
Girls look into things way too much, they react too much to the smallest things...they jump to conclusions and assume that they are about to be rejected and they go on the offense..doing things in attempt to protect themselves...often..making the guy feel like.. they are being played...when they aren't
all these misconceptions are what is going to cost you someone you care about....
we have a mouth and a voice for a reason...use it. communicate how you feel instead of assuming. YOU WILL THANK ME LATER.
with that being said, happy holidays.
buy my love
sovereign <3
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But yes, communication is a key in any relationship. Expressing ones feelings, what ever they are, and being honest usually makes a relationship better.