"We think that the point is to pass the test or overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don't really get solved. They come together and fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It's just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy" - Pema Chodron
Never be ashamed of your emotions, only how they have been expressed. I have finally realized through various self help books and classes that emotions with negative connotation (i.e. anger or sadness) are OKAY to express. If someone has a problem with an emotion being expressed, I am (trying to learn) to remind myself that is their problem and maybe their value in my life should be reassessed. Only the people I care about the most see me in my most vulnerable states. Unfortunately, I am usually looking for a listener and these people are usually trying to give me advice. This advice is usually in their best interest and from their experience which doesn't necessarily apply. It really is not appropriate to give a person advice unless it is asked for. In the end, all anyone needs when they are upset is some love, jest or other form of positivity.
I apologize for not being very active lately, and will have things straightened out soon. Please wish me luck and think of me.
Xoxo.