I need some advice....
Well here goes. I am dating this girl. I moved to Cincinnati. She wanted to move to cincy as well. We both worked at the same place. It is where I met her. She lost her job. It has been about a month now. She still hasn't found a job. Hasn't really even looked. She sleeps all day. Keeps me up all night. I get no sleep. I am averaging about 3-4 hours a night. She stays up all night watching tv, listening to the radio, or playing on the comp. She has no car, no license for that matter. I am getting tired. The little things are starting to get to me.
She has no problem going thru my paycheck. It is constantly I want this this and this. If I ask if she really needs it, she gets upset. I make okay money, 16 an hour, I can survive great on my own, but I'm not expensive to keep around. With the two of us, with her spending habit...I am barely making it to payday. I've never really been a paycheck to paycheck guy. My truck blew up basically and it drained my savings, that and Christmas. Come payday yesterday, I had $2.00 to my name. With overtime, I bring home almost $900.00 a week. Right now we are living in a motel. It doesn't bother me. I spend $30.00 more for a hotel a week now then I did before in gas before. But at the rate she goes, I will never be able to move out of it.
There are more things then just the job and the money. She is there all day, yet after working from 6am to 6pm, I get to come back to a dirty room, dirty laundry, and someone asking "so where are we going out to eat tonight?" or "What time can we go to Dayton tonight?"
She, as we have spent more time together, seems to be a very me me me person. Tonight, I made plans with a friend I haven't seen since Thanksgiving. Made them a week ago, told her. Now, she wants to go out to her mother's tonight because oops, she forgot it was her birthday. She has little respect for my things. I have my work laptop with me. I own it, I just use it for work. Since we have been here, she has downloaded game after game offline, song after song, and installed stupid ass programs. I have explained it is for work several times. I don't mind little things on it, just let me know first. Honestly, who really needs every cd they have with them burned to mp3's when you have no mp3 player? She deleted some of my files by mistake. I re-installed them..and she wonders why I didn't want to give her an admin log-in at first. I am just growing tired of the whole thing.
The best part is...If I end it, she has no where to go. No job, no money, no car. So what do I do? I hate to just go "well good luck bye" I care about her, just not fucking enough it seems. So what should I do, ride it out, hope it gets better or she gets a job, or should I just go, "Well, I'm done, want me to drop you off somewhere?"
I hate wasting time in life...it is the one thing you can never get back.
Well here goes. I am dating this girl. I moved to Cincinnati. She wanted to move to cincy as well. We both worked at the same place. It is where I met her. She lost her job. It has been about a month now. She still hasn't found a job. Hasn't really even looked. She sleeps all day. Keeps me up all night. I get no sleep. I am averaging about 3-4 hours a night. She stays up all night watching tv, listening to the radio, or playing on the comp. She has no car, no license for that matter. I am getting tired. The little things are starting to get to me.
She has no problem going thru my paycheck. It is constantly I want this this and this. If I ask if she really needs it, she gets upset. I make okay money, 16 an hour, I can survive great on my own, but I'm not expensive to keep around. With the two of us, with her spending habit...I am barely making it to payday. I've never really been a paycheck to paycheck guy. My truck blew up basically and it drained my savings, that and Christmas. Come payday yesterday, I had $2.00 to my name. With overtime, I bring home almost $900.00 a week. Right now we are living in a motel. It doesn't bother me. I spend $30.00 more for a hotel a week now then I did before in gas before. But at the rate she goes, I will never be able to move out of it.
There are more things then just the job and the money. She is there all day, yet after working from 6am to 6pm, I get to come back to a dirty room, dirty laundry, and someone asking "so where are we going out to eat tonight?" or "What time can we go to Dayton tonight?"
She, as we have spent more time together, seems to be a very me me me person. Tonight, I made plans with a friend I haven't seen since Thanksgiving. Made them a week ago, told her. Now, she wants to go out to her mother's tonight because oops, she forgot it was her birthday. She has little respect for my things. I have my work laptop with me. I own it, I just use it for work. Since we have been here, she has downloaded game after game offline, song after song, and installed stupid ass programs. I have explained it is for work several times. I don't mind little things on it, just let me know first. Honestly, who really needs every cd they have with them burned to mp3's when you have no mp3 player? She deleted some of my files by mistake. I re-installed them..and she wonders why I didn't want to give her an admin log-in at first. I am just growing tired of the whole thing.
The best part is...If I end it, she has no where to go. No job, no money, no car. So what do I do? I hate to just go "well good luck bye" I care about her, just not fucking enough it seems. So what should I do, ride it out, hope it gets better or she gets a job, or should I just go, "Well, I'm done, want me to drop you off somewhere?"
I hate wasting time in life...it is the one thing you can never get back.
Honesty is the best policy! . Sit her down and talk to her and just let her know how you feeling, and let her talk and tell you how she is feeling, cause I'm guessing theres more going on with her then just laziness. It almost sounds like she's depressed and if you two are both holding in your feelings and not talking about it ..it's going to build up and only make things worse then what they are. Communication is VERY important in a relationship, and I dont' mean one talks and the other listens..I mean both gets to talk..and be heard and understood! I would try that before breaking it off with her, cause you may still have deep feelings for her, but right now you are just too upset, and worried that it's masking those feelings.. plus you might learn what's up with her and get a better understanding of her behaviors. also.. may I suggest if you talk to her use "I'm feeling" when talking.. "I'm starting to feel as though ..etc. etc. etc.." it won't make her as defensive, and will less like start a fight!
oh and you never have a dull day when you work with the mentally ill.. a day is NEVER the same.. and I can always expect something exciting to happen! Good thing about the job..it doesn't get boring!