Have you ever had to stick to your guns with someone and then not wanted to stick to them? I always find that times come where I have to make a stand and stick to it with people I once dated. Sometimes, I don't mind. I have a couple ex girlfriends who have crossed a line with me too many times and I'm quite convinced that they aren't worth a minute more of my time. End of story.
One of the things I'll do to let an ex know that she isn't worth my time is I'll just ignore all her attempts to communicate with me.
There was one ex-girlfriend that, even though I was pretty upset with some things she did, I recently took one step towards healing by sending her an email inviting her to come to one of my performances, if she still cared to go. She used to love seeing me play.
It has been a couple weeks and I have not heard anything back from her. I wonder if she is letting me know that I'm not worth her time, just like I would be letting someone know that they weren't worth my time by ignoring any attempts they made to communicate with me.
Then that makes me think, "Damn, I probably should not have even bothered trying." Part of me, my prideful part, wants to be the last one to blow off an email. As if that makes some kind of difference - who it was who emailed the other last! It shouldn't be me, it should be her! That way, I get to be right, you know?
But, that's really just a load of bullshit. Sometimes we expose our vulnerabilities in the hopes of making something possible. We should not be ashamed of ever doing that! If someone does not do what we hope they will do, we cannot think we're wrong for trying. Then we'd all have walls up around our hearts. We'd all be cold and harsh people indeed.
Life is not about making stands to keep others from walking on us. Life is about telling people when they've crossed the line and why that line is there, then letting them try again. Life is about learning how it is you may have made the same mistakes, then trying once more. If others don't want to participate in that process, you just have to let them go. It's not about you.
One of the things I'll do to let an ex know that she isn't worth my time is I'll just ignore all her attempts to communicate with me.
There was one ex-girlfriend that, even though I was pretty upset with some things she did, I recently took one step towards healing by sending her an email inviting her to come to one of my performances, if she still cared to go. She used to love seeing me play.
It has been a couple weeks and I have not heard anything back from her. I wonder if she is letting me know that I'm not worth her time, just like I would be letting someone know that they weren't worth my time by ignoring any attempts they made to communicate with me.
Then that makes me think, "Damn, I probably should not have even bothered trying." Part of me, my prideful part, wants to be the last one to blow off an email. As if that makes some kind of difference - who it was who emailed the other last! It shouldn't be me, it should be her! That way, I get to be right, you know?
But, that's really just a load of bullshit. Sometimes we expose our vulnerabilities in the hopes of making something possible. We should not be ashamed of ever doing that! If someone does not do what we hope they will do, we cannot think we're wrong for trying. Then we'd all have walls up around our hearts. We'd all be cold and harsh people indeed.
Life is not about making stands to keep others from walking on us. Life is about telling people when they've crossed the line and why that line is there, then letting them try again. Life is about learning how it is you may have made the same mistakes, then trying once more. If others don't want to participate in that process, you just have to let them go. It's not about you.
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you do have a good point.
However I am the kind of guy that likes making a stand for some one who is under attack...and in turn I get attacked.. This is the pattern of my life. I feel justice. I feel emotion. I live buy my heart more then my head to many times. Sometimes I should be better off dead but I like to live. I am not depressed just angry and feed up with the lack of respect and courtesy that people give and get these days. I hunger for a more just and chivalrous world.
*smoochies*