Hey y'all. Soooo.... I think it's safe to say I suck at dating. Been seeing one guy since the end of May, and - honestly - I'm being forced to admit that I have noooo friggin clue what I'm doing.
Don't get me wrong, he's a sweet guy and has been really good to me, but ... well, there are a lot of "but"s.
Keep in mind, he's 30.
... but he's REALLY Vanilla.... as in, early adolescent "insert peg A into slot B" Vanilla.
... but he has never even gone down on a woman... or tried to.
... but he's starting to get lazy with the whole "courtship" thing. As in, I'm pretty much doing all the work.... ALL of it. >.<'
So, advice kids?
I really do like this guy. I'm just completely lost on how to make the other stuff work.
Don't get me wrong, he's a sweet guy and has been really good to me, but ... well, there are a lot of "but"s.
Keep in mind, he's 30.
... but he's REALLY Vanilla.... as in, early adolescent "insert peg A into slot B" Vanilla.
... but he has never even gone down on a woman... or tried to.
... but he's starting to get lazy with the whole "courtship" thing. As in, I'm pretty much doing all the work.... ALL of it. >.<'
So, advice kids?
I really do like this guy. I'm just completely lost on how to make the other stuff work.
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dpgc44:
Vanilla is quite the dangerous flavor. You have to make sure to add the right sprinkle or you get some crazy shit like candied ginger and soy nuts. Good but an acquired taste and next time force his face down your slammin clam. Make HIM understand.
hayvn:
A bit late to the party here but a quick two cents from me (since you asked). The sex thing is not a big deal, one can be trained to you liking if they are willing to learn. No if they are not willing that is a issue (a deal breaker for me). The lack of romance? is he just kinda dumb guy or doesn't seem to care? Guys will mess up some times, not because they aren't trying but because guys and girls are on the same wave length usually. Once again this is simply a training issue. But if he just doesn't care, you may be dating an ass who will just get worse with time. Best advice I have is talk with him about your desires (I said talk WITH him not talk at him). Be open, honest & understanding. Try your best not to get upset or negative no matter what is talked about, that can easily kill an open discussion. After the talk if you notice improvements then he is trying and should be encouraged, if he seems to not care once you have been open, then moving on may be the next step. Good luck!