sherrillee

You know what really makes me mad a lot of times... its this...people that wallow in self pity. We all have things in our lives that we don't like, illnesses, people, occupations whatever. But that doesn't give you the right to treat people poorly (to make others feel as bad as you), to blame others for your own actions or shortcomings or to force your unhappiness upon others. It doesn't give you carte blanche to lie about others. I try to be as sympathetic as I possibly can to people who need a shoulder to cry on, because others have done the same for me, but at some point you have to stand on your own.

Case in point. A year ago, Wyldesage had befriended me on this site. I spent months of providing this extremely needy individual support and guidance. She had serious anxiety problems - and was taking medication for it. But she was, and still is a classic case of the "victim" mentality - an individual that cannot take responsibility for her own actions. Everything that goes wrong in her life is the fault of someone else - "the villain". Perish the thought that she actually accept the responsibility that her own actions play in her circumstances. And true to form - she truly feels that the whole world owes her - surviving mostly on the "dole".

She was fine as long as I encouraged her and praised her for her accomplishments. I truly felt sorry for her. One mutual friends actually asked me why I wasted time on her.

But then we hit some bones of contention.

First, she became jealous of my conversations with her beau, Wyldechylde , and sent me a PM telling me not to correspond with him anymore. Given her personality type, I complied. I knew that she was insecure in her relationship - and did not want to cause her any more distress.

Then she became angry when I advised her that common decency and compassion should prevail when she started campaigning with her beau to have him throw his own ailing Dad to the curb. Yes, she had decided that his Dad was the current villain in her life and started demanding that he leave. I tried to explain to her that there were agencies that could help them handle this situation in a more humane way, and provided her a detailed list. But she overreacted - and would hear none of it. She engaged in her usual pattern of hyperbole and exaggeration - claiming that her true friends thought she was right - and attacked me. These very same friends that she claimed were supporting her, were telling me privately that they disagreed with her.

Shortly thereafter she received a flaming email. And, in her infinite "wisdom", decided that I was the author of this missive. She promptly defriended me, tried to get me banned from this site, and send emails to our mutual friends accusing me. She claimed that she knew it was me - because she had traced the email to my location in New York, and that I had stopped talking to her beau. She even claimed that Junnie had told her that I had confessed to the deed. And then told everyone else NOT to contact Junnie because she was "really busy", and didn't want to discuss it. She then got some of her friends to wage a campaign against me, as well.

Luckily, Cassy forwarded me the email and let me know what had transpired. Further when Junnie found out what she was saying, came forth to say that it was a complete fabrication.

Funny thing, but when I traced the IP address it had come from Los Angeles, not New York. And the email itself was poorly written and illiterate - something that Wyldesage could have written herself. And, claiming that it had come from me because I had stopped talking to her beau is ridiculous - when the reason I had stopped talking to him was because she had asked me to.

As a result of all of this. some of her "best" friends defriended her and stayed on my friends list.
Although she has apologized for her actions to those friends - they will have nothing to do with her because of the huge breach of faith. Not only did she lie, she fabricated evidence and implicated others in her lie. There can be no trust in her. She has never apologized to me.

Instead of learning from this mistake in judgment - she has continued to harass me over this past year. She has called me a liar, claimed that I backstabbed her, and Wyldechylde threatened to "butt fuck" me. Nice, huh?

it's been ugly. And what I find absolutely astonishing is that in an internet environment, she thinks she can post her lies with impunity and no one will tell me. How ridiculous is that?

While she claims that Karma will punish me - it seems that Karma HAS functioned appropiately. When you continually make bad choices through selfishness/laziness you will get what you deserve - and she has.

Through it all, I feel sorry for Wyldesage. She has, over the period that I have known her, made many claims of being "abused" by her friends, her family and her ex. And given that I have caught her in some very bold lies - its hard for me to give them any credence. She has also lost a great many friends. She has the capacity to throw her friends away like Kleenex if they irritate her in any way.

I feel sorry for Wyldechylde and his daughter - because their household has to walk on eggshells to avoid her wrath. Children learn by example - that influence cannot be good. I'm not alone in this feeling - it has been validated by mutual friends. And when asked what was important to her, she posted this hierarchy - herself, then her beau and then his child. Clearly, her own needs will always be foremost. Sadly, with his ailing Dad now being forced out of the household, I can't help but wonder who will be her next villain.

Wyldesage holds herself out to be a loving and caring individual and then privately posts that she hates "most of humanity". She makes bold misinformed exaggerated statements - and when confronted by others here - goes back to the anonymity of her blogs to call everyone who disagrees with her "stupid". Direct quotes by the way.

She fails to understand that although everyone has the right to their opinion - that does not mean that their opinion is right. Opinions can be wrong.

She claims that she has never harmed anyone, yet I have seen very hurtful posts made by her. She claims she never lies, that everything she says is based on fact - and yet I know for a fact that she has lied and does exaggerate through my own personal experience.

She posts what annoys her in other people - and describes herself perfectly.

Wyldesage IS the embodiment of the Pity Party.

For the record. I am not leaving this site. From now on, EVERY time I find out that Wyldesage or Wyldechylde has made another post that calls me a liar or denigrates me in any way - I will respond. If I receive any more threats - I will report them.

Enough is enough.

TO WYLDECHYLDE AND WYLDESAGE:
You two need to get over yourselves and leave me alone. I'm done with taking the high road and letting you damage my good name with impunity. You want DRAMA - come and get it!

We all know that you are not ADULT enough to extend that simple courtesy or acknowledge your mistakes, or extend a simple apology.

You can change your AVATAR (as you have done, like you change your underwear) - but YOU will never change.

What can I say, once a liar always a liar, apparently. It's too bad that they are not adult enough to admit what they did. Funny thing - but I have witnesses that confirmed the situation as you can see by the comments below. And Wyldechylde and Wyldesage have - their lies.

All I can say at this point - is that it's the people who truly know them that have posted below. The others will just have to find out for themselves the caliber of the people they are associating with.

It is truly pathetic and pitiful on both their parts. But hey, they have to live with themselves. And given the constant turmoil in that household - it looks like they deserve each other.

And, mark my words, throwing the old man out of their place IS NOT going to stop the negativity. Because, he's not the source of it. She is.

It's really very sad.

So if you want this to stop WyldeSage - stop lying. You lied. People here have confirmed it. It's just that simple. Just as I said before - EVERY time you post something about this - I WILL RESPOND. EVERYTIME. I would think this would be supremely simple for YOU to understand. I really can't comprehend why YOU are not getting the message.

I honestly don't know how to make this message to YOU any clearer or any simpler.

But I am glad that YOU finally acknowledged that what YOU and Wydlechylde did was horrible.

And my response - Wyldesage, the only bullshit, and the only lies, are coming from YOU.
"Noone can be trusted" - another sweeping generalization. The person who can't be trusted - is YOU.

All we did was expose you for what you are and what you did. Which has been validated by others here. We are simply holding you accountable for YOUR OWN actions. No one is asking that you leave. All we are asking is that you stop spreading your lies/fabrications/fantasies. Is it so terrible to admit you've made some mistakes?

Or is it that you can't stand it here - if you can't tell lies/fantasies/fabrications, engage in broad generalizations condemning others, or engage in any discussion where people disagree with you?

So while she leaves posts everywhere saying that she's leaving, the victim of "lies"- we all know that she will be back under a new name, just like before. Remember Jynee, Phoenixgirl, DarkPhoenix, now Wyldesage? And the whole cycle will begin anew.

Sigh. with the two of them, some things NEVER change.

For the record, she's calling ME a cyber-bully. Let's see - she falsely accused me through emails to everyone. Liied about the evidence. Lied when she said that I 'confessed" to Junnie. She continued to post her lies over this past year. That would make me the cyber- victim not the cyber-bully.

All I do is defend myself, and I'm the cyber-bully. Wow, that turns the world upside down - doesn't it? Everything she claims I did - was actually caused by her own actions - and while she condemns me - she's actually condemning her own actions and she fails to see it.

Conclusion - she is a compulsive liar that thrives on drama. The fact that ALL the people involved that she quotes have ALL defriended her for her actions, does not deter her from still posting the same old lies, or taking responsibility for the damage that she did.

Note that Wyldechylde is strangely silent this time? it's because he knows it's all lies on her point.

Her lies can't stand the light of day. They have to be spread covertly, hidden behing the anonymity of "friends only". Some of her friends have tried to give her the benefit of the doubt - they have not defriended her. But they do tell me when she posts her lies - because they know that she made a huge lapse in judgment in what she did. They gave her a second chance. But the fact that they feel compelled to tell me what she posts even now - is validation that they know what she is, that they know what she did.

I'm not afraid to make my comments openly - because my comments are true. I don't have to hide.

Is it mental illness (psychopath)?
Is it a compulsion (OCD)?
Is she simply incapable of telling the truth?
Is it just plain old fashioned malicious intent?
Or, is it ALL of the above?

Bingo - i do believe we have a winner! It's ALL of the above. Ding, ding, ding, ding, ding.....

P.S. Wyldechylde - if "the ignorance is what bothers you most", YOU must be a supremely unhappy guy - having to live with both yourself AND WyldeSage. Damn, that must be overwhelming....

You should get help for that.