Friday Apr 03, 2009

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I'm The Maid of Honor
Deliberate Gentle Love Master (DGLM)

Appreciated for your kindness and envied for all your experience, you are The Maid of Honor.

Charismatic, affectionate, and terrific in relationships, you are what many guys would call a perfect catchand you probably have many admirers, each wishing to capture your long-term love. Youre careful, extra careful, because the last thing you want is to hurt anyone. Especially some poor boy whose only crime was liking you.

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cassy:
i have those silly fireworks everytime i talk to him, they just go off inside my heart.
i NEED the other kinda fireworks too the physical metaphysical ones from the amazing experience together in the same space.....but i'm a believer that all in good time, and the time is getting closer smile
caryn:
Solid points on conventional-model polygamy. I do believe, though, that the key in the case of that model is the conventional bit. Much the same reaction happens to women from any place where the dominant culture is a virulent patriarchy---the Indian sub-continent, the Near and Middle East, Central and Southern Africa, and large parts of China (and some would argue major parts of Japan and Indonesia).

I am loathe to use the term polyamoury any more, because polyamoury is now largely associated with swinging or with sexual promiscuity, neither of which describes sexually and emotionally intimate relationships among more than two people. Polygamy is deeply embedded in the idea of male supremacy, which is implicit in conventional heterosexual marriage, and so is even worse as a choice. And the degree of emotional involvement I intend surpasses the idea of "friends with benefits".

Come at from another direction---my personal belief is that humans are not monogamous---even if one abuses the definition of monogamy to countenance "serial monogamy"---and just as much pain, of exactly the same kind, derives from the attempt to force-fit human relationships into that model as derives from attempts to force that model to fit any more complex human relationships.

To make a multiple-partner relationship work requires the same work that making a two-partner relationship work. The forces acting on a multiple-partner relationship are no different than those acting on a two-partner one, and each approach gains certain strengths, and incurs certain weaknesses, from the ways they confront those forces. Jealousy does not disappear from multiple-partner relationships merely because the basis of the relationship is X number of people. Fidelity---and I loathe that concept as it applies to marriages or similar long-term sexually and emotionally intimate relationships---is not guaranteed merely because a promise has been given.

LOL...I suppose I'd best write my own blog on the matter, instead of eating up space on yours! Sorry about that.

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