Good afternoon S.G., I have a situation here, I went to a friends collage graduation party last night. We all were having a good time, I was not drinking because I had my 2 youngest sons with me and my middle son only has his learners permit so I had to be sober! Well this family that had the graduation party is like family to us, I have known them almost all my life, well I have had a crush on one of the daughters since I was in Jr.high and she came up to me last night and told me that she has been in love with me since about that time but was to scared to tell me about it. The thing is I have been in love with her too. I'm in love with my wife and this other woman! She has never been able to tell me her feelings about me until last night! My wife has cheated on me and I caught her with this other guy red handed, but I took her back because I love her so much, but I'm still having trust issues with her! I'm between a rock and a hard place! 
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chameleonbiscuit:
At the moment the idea of the girl at the party is probably mainly alluring because things seem tainted with your wife after she cheated and this seems like it would be a fresh start. It's also nice to find out that someone finds you attractive and wants to be with you, and reminds you that you are not stuck with the person you're with, that it's actually a choice to be with her. Maybe this situation has just highlighted to you that you took your wife back because you felt stuck with her? If you don't feel that way, if you really like being with your wife, then it would be a lot easier to carry that relationship on and let go of the idea of being with the other girl, since you have children together and a whole life tied up in each other. Separating is hard, so you don't want to go through it for the wrong reason. Just some thoughts to chew on. 
ironduke50:
Also, leaving your marriage directly for a new girl will affect the new relationship with the added bonus of wrecking your ability to go back if you have regret, which you may...