A week or two back I wrote of my somewhat amazing first date. And now I would like to write of the nightmare it's turned into.
So, for his sake lets call him "Jean", shall we? "Jean" and I have hung out 3 or 4 times in as little as our first week. When he wanted to make me his girlfriend I was flattered, but soon fReAkeD. So when we had planned to hang out next I took a rain check and told him we needed to slow down. So "Jean" thought that meant we would hang out the next day, and I said "wrong". Plus not only did I need some space, I have a really really really hectic schedule which I can't bend too much for anyone. So come the middle of the next week (note: 2 or 3 days later) he made me feel guilty and requested that I please think about when I will see him again, like in the next few days. At this point I was no longer flirty or cute with him in any way, I had already been a bit turned off by the 2nd set of flowers on date 3. He called me like 3 times a day and got all up on me somehow through the cellie, YUCK, " oh you're perfect, I see a future with you....blah blah blah". You make me puke "Jean". Trying way too hard "Jean"? I think so. I just want some one who isn't trying to impress me so much....just be yourself damnit, dont change who you are for me! Have your own life, I don't want to have all your attention just yet, you do your thing with your people and I'll do my thing with mine. I don't need to see your face 5 days a week, once is more then enough for me.
I know many may not agree with my approach....or his intentions. My roomie freaks out along with me, but my classmate Amanda says I'm the one who's acting all weird, that I should want to be hanging out with him and appreciate that he wants to spend all his time with me. But, he's just too needy for me. Damnit I thought I was high maintanance!? Turns out, I'm the man in this relationship. As much as I love women "Jean" you just don't look that good in a skirt so fucken grab your balls because maybe you need a reminder that you're a man~so act like one.
Any input? I would really appreciate it!
So, for his sake lets call him "Jean", shall we? "Jean" and I have hung out 3 or 4 times in as little as our first week. When he wanted to make me his girlfriend I was flattered, but soon fReAkeD. So when we had planned to hang out next I took a rain check and told him we needed to slow down. So "Jean" thought that meant we would hang out the next day, and I said "wrong". Plus not only did I need some space, I have a really really really hectic schedule which I can't bend too much for anyone. So come the middle of the next week (note: 2 or 3 days later) he made me feel guilty and requested that I please think about when I will see him again, like in the next few days. At this point I was no longer flirty or cute with him in any way, I had already been a bit turned off by the 2nd set of flowers on date 3. He called me like 3 times a day and got all up on me somehow through the cellie, YUCK, " oh you're perfect, I see a future with you....blah blah blah". You make me puke "Jean". Trying way too hard "Jean"? I think so. I just want some one who isn't trying to impress me so much....just be yourself damnit, dont change who you are for me! Have your own life, I don't want to have all your attention just yet, you do your thing with your people and I'll do my thing with mine. I don't need to see your face 5 days a week, once is more then enough for me.
I know many may not agree with my approach....or his intentions. My roomie freaks out along with me, but my classmate Amanda says I'm the one who's acting all weird, that I should want to be hanging out with him and appreciate that he wants to spend all his time with me. But, he's just too needy for me. Damnit I thought I was high maintanance!? Turns out, I'm the man in this relationship. As much as I love women "Jean" you just don't look that good in a skirt so fucken grab your balls because maybe you need a reminder that you're a man~so act like one.
Any input? I would really appreciate it!
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Second, there is no gender roll here. You want to take it normal, and he wants to marry you yesterday.
If someone makes you feel uncomfortable then you have every right to tell them to back the fuck off. Anecdote follows:
Don't second guess yourself, only you know what you feel.
Keep on truckin.