As much as I hate losing friends I think I have to put an end to a friendship with someone I truly care about and wanted to be in her life . While it is true that our relationship started out as a more then friends thing but didn't work out due to timing and other bullshit like that.(i.e. she had a boyfriend) I gave the just friends thing a shot. And after being jerked around and sent mixed signals for a year and a half, I can't take anymore. While recent events may seem relatively miniscule, they are the straw that broke the camels back.
A couple of months ago I stopped trying to hang out with her, quit asking her what she was up to, how life was going, and such. We do have many mutual friends so I do see her at-least two or three times a week. I'm nice and polite to her but don't go out of my way to be around her, she just happens to be there and things are fine.
Then a couple of weeks ago I get a random phone call from her saying she wants to hang out and asks if I mind if she comes over a little latter. She wants a me to make a couple cds for her. I have done this in the past so this is not anything new. Latter on that evening I get a text saying she can't make it, something came up. No biggie just tell me what you want me to make and you can come get them when you have a chance. She says cool, tells me what cds she wants but then tells me she doesn't just want to come get them she wants to hang out as well and tells me to call her when I get off work tomorrow.
Tomorrow comes, I call her, get no answer and leave her a voice mail. She returns the call latter in the evening saying she can come over but is meeting up with some friends so she wouldn't be able to stay long and she doesn't want to do that.She tells me to call her again tomorrow, she doesn't have any plans so she can dedicate some time to me. Tomorrow comes and we repeat yesterday. Same story different excuse. This goes on for two weeks. Finally she just tells me to bring them to my band practice where she hangs out with another dude that is in a band that practices in the same building.(which is another story I'm not going to get into) I tell her thats fine by me and plan on leaving them on the table for her and walking away.
I'm done putting time, emotion, and money into something and not getting any return. I've done so much for this person and the only thing she has ever done for me is make me feel unwanted. No more will I help her move her shit out of her ex boyfriends house, drive to L.A. with her when she decides on a whim she's moving there, answers phone calls at four in the morning when she is feeling lonely, fly out there when she asks me to, not tell her she's an idiot when she can't hack it in L.A. and has to move back. This girls is like a bad drug, and thats all she is, a stupid little girl.
Ahh... I feel better already
A couple of months ago I stopped trying to hang out with her, quit asking her what she was up to, how life was going, and such. We do have many mutual friends so I do see her at-least two or three times a week. I'm nice and polite to her but don't go out of my way to be around her, she just happens to be there and things are fine.
Then a couple of weeks ago I get a random phone call from her saying she wants to hang out and asks if I mind if she comes over a little latter. She wants a me to make a couple cds for her. I have done this in the past so this is not anything new. Latter on that evening I get a text saying she can't make it, something came up. No biggie just tell me what you want me to make and you can come get them when you have a chance. She says cool, tells me what cds she wants but then tells me she doesn't just want to come get them she wants to hang out as well and tells me to call her when I get off work tomorrow.
Tomorrow comes, I call her, get no answer and leave her a voice mail. She returns the call latter in the evening saying she can come over but is meeting up with some friends so she wouldn't be able to stay long and she doesn't want to do that.She tells me to call her again tomorrow, she doesn't have any plans so she can dedicate some time to me. Tomorrow comes and we repeat yesterday. Same story different excuse. This goes on for two weeks. Finally she just tells me to bring them to my band practice where she hangs out with another dude that is in a band that practices in the same building.(which is another story I'm not going to get into) I tell her thats fine by me and plan on leaving them on the table for her and walking away.
I'm done putting time, emotion, and money into something and not getting any return. I've done so much for this person and the only thing she has ever done for me is make me feel unwanted. No more will I help her move her shit out of her ex boyfriends house, drive to L.A. with her when she decides on a whim she's moving there, answers phone calls at four in the morning when she is feeling lonely, fly out there when she asks me to, not tell her she's an idiot when she can't hack it in L.A. and has to move back. This girls is like a bad drug, and thats all she is, a stupid little girl.
Ahh... I feel better already
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i know exactly how you feel.
i am in a very similar situation with an ex bf of mine.
it's really shitty...
that feeling of being walked all over.
i think i'll blog about it tomorrow =]
wishing you the best, darling.