I've re-written the sex valuation essay.
Her Love Comes Cheaply.
There are some men who react very violently when you mention the word slut in their presence. I love men like that. They are considerate, and more importantly, know that having sex does not demean a person.
Everyone has different intentions each time they have sex, and satisfaction from sex is the most price discriminate good you can purchase, and the price cannot possibly be set on dates, flowers and a promised eternal loyalty. Sometimes you just want to have sex for fun, and I cannot possibly see how that should make you any cheaper.
Some people say it cheapens the sacredness of sex. Well, its been proven that people can love in an infinite number of ways (the economist has classified it into three), in which case it would also mean that people can have sex, and feel a different emotion, each time, and with each different person. Sex does not have to be sacred all the time for it to fufill it's function, althought it does have to be satisfying. It's at your disposal for you to use in order to attain satisfaction, not something to taunt and torment you; Money is for you to spend, not keep for Kingdom Come and your children to burn on the seventh month when you've gone to hell.
<>I believe in knowing what I want from each endeavor as an individual, and knowing how I can get the exact price in satisfaction paid. Its the same for everyone, it just requires different combinations in uh the basket of goods you wish to trade (dinner, wine, prior relationship with the person or how well you know each other etc. The good is not sex, its satisfaction, and sex is one of the ways through which you obtain it. As in the case of the acquiring of anything, there are ethical ways to do it, and therefore intents that can be spawned of either selfish or compassionate thought.
Well, heres a thought: Smutty people are more capable of compassion simply because theyve been blessed by so many other people that they have more to give. Poverty is not holy, and maintaining celibacy, even though it may be a torture, and it makes your mind sick, is not noble. But it must be noted that there is a difference in the genuine conviction of wanting to keep yourself pure for the right one and a blind devotion to something you dont quite understand yourself. Aside from the fact that it sometimes makes you feel superior to the people who lack self-control. (Ahem, and you lack commonsense)
Of course while thinking about the price of the sort of satisfaction you wish to acquire through sex, I always thought, well, what about the prostitutes?
Firstly, I do not think anyone that sleeps for money is cheap. In fact, I do not think anyone is cheap at all. No one has the right to judge another persons self-worth. You CAN have pity for them, if they have a lot of mindless sex for the sake of reaffirming their self-worth, or have to do it to live; in either situation, they just need someone to come in and help them out. But youve no right to value them, even if you do know them. It upsets me sometimes, that some people can separate sex from their emotions, and will do it, even if it disturbs them.
I do look at some girls and think that they ARE cheap. But then, thats what a lot of people think of me too, and I dont think that way of myself, obviously. Not anymore, anyway. Perhaps Ive just lost the reservations Id used to have years ago; which is to me, a good thing. Since Im a lot happier now that Ive stopped thinking of sex as wrong. I was going to have as much of it as I wanted, regardless, anyway.
And the truth is, even after Ive slept with a number of people, Ive still managed to have sex and feel intense love, and a passionate sense of self-sacrifice. Self-sacrifice is a terrible word to use in this case, its something more like, a passionate spiritual, sexual moment. Think an eros-agape emotion. Sex, for me, has not loss any of its meaning. Its just acquired more then one.
Without meaning to go into theology; but I am very Christian in my beliefs and thoughts, if everyone was precious to Christ, then no one can possibly be cheap in his love. The little whore selling herself for the newest Nokia phone might look cheap to you, but shes precious to someone else, so dont go trying to value her worth.
Besides, valuing something as intangible and more then anything, grounded wholly in emotion as satisfaction is, is simply impossible. And honestly, the best investment (note I did not use payment) any one can put into sex is emotion, because its what its all about in the first place. Tangible commodities are certainly important to any female, because its biological to be attracted to providers with the capability to provide, but its more then that. There is a criteria, a minimum price for sex in each female individual, but after that has been met, what matters is the generosity of spirit that is revealed.
As long as I know that spirit exist within the other person, he doesnt have to be showing it to me all the time.
Honestly, the whole idea of labeling someone as cheap is just extremely antiquated, and completely callous.
Men who do it are prone to rape, and not necessarily the sort thats not condoned by the law. They are those that go, Shes a cheap slut, lets just fuck her. They clearly lack maturity, and obviously do not get laid enough.
Women that do it are the worst sort of feminists possible. They are so edgy, anal and materialistic they feel the need to humiliate women who understand that theres more to sexual satisfaction then just the tangible basket of goods they demand. Because they are clearly a threat, when in reality, they are their own adversary. But what I feel most ironic about women like these is that, on the one hand, they are pimping girl power, screaming, youve got pussy so subjugate the men with it; on the other, they criticize people when they use it. Because its always too cheap a price. But itll never be the right price, because youll never see what was really exchanged. All this while feeling very violently about how sex should be extremely sacred to a woman, and only given in the face of promised eternal loyalty (oh, but also along with the basket of good, of course).
Sacredness my ass.
Because it is pretty enough for you to worship.
Her Love Comes Cheaply.
There are some men who react very violently when you mention the word slut in their presence. I love men like that. They are considerate, and more importantly, know that having sex does not demean a person.
Everyone has different intentions each time they have sex, and satisfaction from sex is the most price discriminate good you can purchase, and the price cannot possibly be set on dates, flowers and a promised eternal loyalty. Sometimes you just want to have sex for fun, and I cannot possibly see how that should make you any cheaper.
Some people say it cheapens the sacredness of sex. Well, its been proven that people can love in an infinite number of ways (the economist has classified it into three), in which case it would also mean that people can have sex, and feel a different emotion, each time, and with each different person. Sex does not have to be sacred all the time for it to fufill it's function, althought it does have to be satisfying. It's at your disposal for you to use in order to attain satisfaction, not something to taunt and torment you; Money is for you to spend, not keep for Kingdom Come and your children to burn on the seventh month when you've gone to hell.
<>I believe in knowing what I want from each endeavor as an individual, and knowing how I can get the exact price in satisfaction paid. Its the same for everyone, it just requires different combinations in uh the basket of goods you wish to trade (dinner, wine, prior relationship with the person or how well you know each other etc. The good is not sex, its satisfaction, and sex is one of the ways through which you obtain it. As in the case of the acquiring of anything, there are ethical ways to do it, and therefore intents that can be spawned of either selfish or compassionate thought.
Well, heres a thought: Smutty people are more capable of compassion simply because theyve been blessed by so many other people that they have more to give. Poverty is not holy, and maintaining celibacy, even though it may be a torture, and it makes your mind sick, is not noble. But it must be noted that there is a difference in the genuine conviction of wanting to keep yourself pure for the right one and a blind devotion to something you dont quite understand yourself. Aside from the fact that it sometimes makes you feel superior to the people who lack self-control. (Ahem, and you lack commonsense)
Of course while thinking about the price of the sort of satisfaction you wish to acquire through sex, I always thought, well, what about the prostitutes?
Firstly, I do not think anyone that sleeps for money is cheap. In fact, I do not think anyone is cheap at all. No one has the right to judge another persons self-worth. You CAN have pity for them, if they have a lot of mindless sex for the sake of reaffirming their self-worth, or have to do it to live; in either situation, they just need someone to come in and help them out. But youve no right to value them, even if you do know them. It upsets me sometimes, that some people can separate sex from their emotions, and will do it, even if it disturbs them.
I do look at some girls and think that they ARE cheap. But then, thats what a lot of people think of me too, and I dont think that way of myself, obviously. Not anymore, anyway. Perhaps Ive just lost the reservations Id used to have years ago; which is to me, a good thing. Since Im a lot happier now that Ive stopped thinking of sex as wrong. I was going to have as much of it as I wanted, regardless, anyway.
And the truth is, even after Ive slept with a number of people, Ive still managed to have sex and feel intense love, and a passionate sense of self-sacrifice. Self-sacrifice is a terrible word to use in this case, its something more like, a passionate spiritual, sexual moment. Think an eros-agape emotion. Sex, for me, has not loss any of its meaning. Its just acquired more then one.
Without meaning to go into theology; but I am very Christian in my beliefs and thoughts, if everyone was precious to Christ, then no one can possibly be cheap in his love. The little whore selling herself for the newest Nokia phone might look cheap to you, but shes precious to someone else, so dont go trying to value her worth.
Besides, valuing something as intangible and more then anything, grounded wholly in emotion as satisfaction is, is simply impossible. And honestly, the best investment (note I did not use payment) any one can put into sex is emotion, because its what its all about in the first place. Tangible commodities are certainly important to any female, because its biological to be attracted to providers with the capability to provide, but its more then that. There is a criteria, a minimum price for sex in each female individual, but after that has been met, what matters is the generosity of spirit that is revealed.
As long as I know that spirit exist within the other person, he doesnt have to be showing it to me all the time.
Honestly, the whole idea of labeling someone as cheap is just extremely antiquated, and completely callous.
Men who do it are prone to rape, and not necessarily the sort thats not condoned by the law. They are those that go, Shes a cheap slut, lets just fuck her. They clearly lack maturity, and obviously do not get laid enough.
Women that do it are the worst sort of feminists possible. They are so edgy, anal and materialistic they feel the need to humiliate women who understand that theres more to sexual satisfaction then just the tangible basket of goods they demand. Because they are clearly a threat, when in reality, they are their own adversary. But what I feel most ironic about women like these is that, on the one hand, they are pimping girl power, screaming, youve got pussy so subjugate the men with it; on the other, they criticize people when they use it. Because its always too cheap a price. But itll never be the right price, because youll never see what was really exchanged. All this while feeling very violently about how sex should be extremely sacred to a woman, and only given in the face of promised eternal loyalty (oh, but also along with the basket of good, of course).
Sacredness my ass.
Because it is pretty enough for you to worship.
What can I say, I love you for your body.
You are a lovely lady - no question. It makes me hungry to look at you...
Please, abduct me... if you are still looking for an abductee(Alien set). By the way, all of your sets are excellent. Color balance, composition and clarity are all good. Good work.
[Edited on Sep 26, 2004 5:29AM]