I just found out I'm addicted to porn.
I just read a really depressing article in Bust magazine about an organization called Dirty Girls Ministries. No. Its not as sexy as it sounds. DGM is about getting women to stop masturbating/watching porn. I am not fucking kidding.
Dirty Girls Ministries (DGM) is a 501c3 non-profit ministry helping women struggling with pornography and sexual addiction. Founded by author and speaker Crystal Renaud in February of 2009, the desire of DGM is to break through the stigmatic barriers that are keeping women in bondage to this addiction.
Beginning with surrender, moving to confession, embracing accountability, owning responsibility, to finally sharing with others, DGM takes women on a journey that guides them from a state of woundedness to one of healing. We offer online recovery groups, online community, resources for accountability for women as well as coaching/consulting networks for churches and individuals who want to begin addressing pornography with the women in their influence.
Its like... some horrible joke!
Apparently they consider "once or twice a week" as AN ADDICTION. Basically they shame the fuck out of you. Literally. The fuck. Right out. No fucking for you (they, of course, say you can masturbate after 90 days.. but only if you're thinking about your husband).
There was only one part that made me laugh out loud. They were talking about the creator of this group, Crystal Renaud.
When she was 15, she attended a Christian summer camp and hear the pastor talking about "a Father in heaven who loves you unconditionally regaurdless of what you do." "Knowing what I had been experiences shame-wise, I was like. 'Yea, I want to feel that,'" Renaud says. From then on, she became active in the church and vowed to end her masturbation and porn habits.
"I've been sober for seven years now," she says of her masturbation-free life today. That life also includes living with her parents and her small dog, and having an active social life online that involves tweeting and updating her Facebook status multiple times a day.
I'm not saying that I DON'T update my facebook multiple times a day. I do. But I also don't run around telling women who own their sexuality that they are fucking up their life or that there's something wrong with them if they masturbate.
Its one thing to be truly addicted to porn. If you're not getting things done in life because you're too busy having orgasm after orgasm, you probably have a problem. If you're having trouble falling asleep after a stressful day and you KNOW the best way to fall asleep is to have an orgasm or two.. that is NOT an addiction. If you've just spent time with someone you like a whole lot and imagine them naked and feel like masturbating... that is NOT an addiction. The fact that they are throwing that word around like it doesn't matter is totally FUCKED UP.
There was also a story in here about a women who was OBVIOUSLY a lesbian and was talking about how she felt shameful for her "perversions" and masturbating thinking about women. And now she's going to some Christian group to un-gay her. I just. I feel just so sad for her.
It was really one of the most fucked up stories I've read in a while. Its just... ugh... so disgusting.
I recommend ladies (and dudes) to pick up January's issue of Bust. The past few issues have been pretty dull, but this one is really good. Its the sex issue. All sorts of really good stories.
I just read a really depressing article in Bust magazine about an organization called Dirty Girls Ministries. No. Its not as sexy as it sounds. DGM is about getting women to stop masturbating/watching porn. I am not fucking kidding.
Dirty Girls Ministries (DGM) is a 501c3 non-profit ministry helping women struggling with pornography and sexual addiction. Founded by author and speaker Crystal Renaud in February of 2009, the desire of DGM is to break through the stigmatic barriers that are keeping women in bondage to this addiction.
Beginning with surrender, moving to confession, embracing accountability, owning responsibility, to finally sharing with others, DGM takes women on a journey that guides them from a state of woundedness to one of healing. We offer online recovery groups, online community, resources for accountability for women as well as coaching/consulting networks for churches and individuals who want to begin addressing pornography with the women in their influence.
Its like... some horrible joke!
Apparently they consider "once or twice a week" as AN ADDICTION. Basically they shame the fuck out of you. Literally. The fuck. Right out. No fucking for you (they, of course, say you can masturbate after 90 days.. but only if you're thinking about your husband).
There was only one part that made me laugh out loud. They were talking about the creator of this group, Crystal Renaud.
When she was 15, she attended a Christian summer camp and hear the pastor talking about "a Father in heaven who loves you unconditionally regaurdless of what you do." "Knowing what I had been experiences shame-wise, I was like. 'Yea, I want to feel that,'" Renaud says. From then on, she became active in the church and vowed to end her masturbation and porn habits.
"I've been sober for seven years now," she says of her masturbation-free life today. That life also includes living with her parents and her small dog, and having an active social life online that involves tweeting and updating her Facebook status multiple times a day.
I'm not saying that I DON'T update my facebook multiple times a day. I do. But I also don't run around telling women who own their sexuality that they are fucking up their life or that there's something wrong with them if they masturbate.
Its one thing to be truly addicted to porn. If you're not getting things done in life because you're too busy having orgasm after orgasm, you probably have a problem. If you're having trouble falling asleep after a stressful day and you KNOW the best way to fall asleep is to have an orgasm or two.. that is NOT an addiction. If you've just spent time with someone you like a whole lot and imagine them naked and feel like masturbating... that is NOT an addiction. The fact that they are throwing that word around like it doesn't matter is totally FUCKED UP.
There was also a story in here about a women who was OBVIOUSLY a lesbian and was talking about how she felt shameful for her "perversions" and masturbating thinking about women. And now she's going to some Christian group to un-gay her. I just. I feel just so sad for her.
It was really one of the most fucked up stories I've read in a while. Its just... ugh... so disgusting.
I recommend ladies (and dudes) to pick up January's issue of Bust. The past few issues have been pretty dull, but this one is really good. Its the sex issue. All sorts of really good stories.
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countessa:
I kinda want to get in contact with them just to mess with them... does that make me a bad person? 
littlejohn22:
are you still around much?