I am the kind of person that likes to gather as much information about something as possible before I make the decision to go along with it. That's not to say that I haven't made some stupid "knee jerk reactionary" decisions in my life. We all have. But on average, before I make up my mind on something I like to get the pros and cons worked out before I move forward. Having said that. I am getting a C-section done. This is elective. Which means that it is by my personal choice to have the surgery done. It also means that as I have stated above that I have thought it out and have gathered a lot of information about the procedure before coming to my decision. In these last few weeks, I find the question on everyone's mind is, "When are you due?" This has become a tricky question now. My "due" date hasn't changed. I am still due on August 14. But I have a c-section date for August 10. And being that I am in my 9th month and only have a little over 2 weeks until august 10, I could really go into labor any day now. So after explaining that I am getting a c-section done I get this reaction. "WHY?!" I know that c-sections get a bad rep because they are sometimes preformed under conditions that are considered dangerous and even life threatening, but really? Then I get some diatribe on how "When I had a c-section with my daughter it was horrible. It look forever to heal and I wish I could have had her natural. Don't do a c-section. You'll regret it."
First of all, you're daughter is a 20 something now. So your c-section happened over 2 decades ago. Medicine is pretty neat in that it constantly makes advances forward. Also, you didn't have the choice to have a c-section. Yours was done because the natural way was not an option and in "emergency" conditions. So of course it was a horrible experience. Now lets look at you and your own personal health. You are over weight and have high blood pressure, high cholesterol and had gestational diabetes. Any one of those things can lead you down the path of a "high risk" pregnancy and yet you have all of them. I however, have none of those problems and have had a perfect pregnancy. The only thing we have in common is that you were my age when you had to have your c-section. Other than that we have nothing in common. So, you're outcome is going to be drastically different then mine. I have spoken with several women who have had ELECTIVE c-sections and they say it was the best decision for them to make. Notice they don't tell me it's what is best for me? But their experience was a positive one. This also includes my doctor who would be doing the surgery herself and has been doing them for quite a while now. She is up to date on all things in her medical field. So, who am I to believe? Someone with 20 years experience or someone who had a bad experience 20 years ago? And this goes without saying but it's MY decision and I have the support of the two people who matter most in this situation..my husband and my doctor. Now. Fill up my ice water and get let me enjoy my breakfast or your tip will suffer.
First of all, you're daughter is a 20 something now. So your c-section happened over 2 decades ago. Medicine is pretty neat in that it constantly makes advances forward. Also, you didn't have the choice to have a c-section. Yours was done because the natural way was not an option and in "emergency" conditions. So of course it was a horrible experience. Now lets look at you and your own personal health. You are over weight and have high blood pressure, high cholesterol and had gestational diabetes. Any one of those things can lead you down the path of a "high risk" pregnancy and yet you have all of them. I however, have none of those problems and have had a perfect pregnancy. The only thing we have in common is that you were my age when you had to have your c-section. Other than that we have nothing in common. So, you're outcome is going to be drastically different then mine. I have spoken with several women who have had ELECTIVE c-sections and they say it was the best decision for them to make. Notice they don't tell me it's what is best for me? But their experience was a positive one. This also includes my doctor who would be doing the surgery herself and has been doing them for quite a while now. She is up to date on all things in her medical field. So, who am I to believe? Someone with 20 years experience or someone who had a bad experience 20 years ago? And this goes without saying but it's MY decision and I have the support of the two people who matter most in this situation..my husband and my doctor. Now. Fill up my ice water and get let me enjoy my breakfast or your tip will suffer.
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breezey:
Balls to that I say again!
anomalisa:
Back in the day I remember how annoying it was when people asked me why I was vegetarian, so I can only imagine how offensive it can be for people to question your decision to have a C-section. When you mentioned your decision I figured you had a good reason. That was good enough for me.