Okay, I've been single for my entire life; and that is not an exaggeration either, I have never had a girlfriend. I'm not sure if it's my looks, my personality or what, but for some reason I can never seem to get out of the friends zone. It seems to me you have to become friends before anything else. The trick is, how the fuck do you get past that? I know attraction is a big part of it. No matter what you do if the person isn't attracted to you they won't see you as anything more than a "friend" now I'm not saying don't be friends with someone just because you find them attractive, and they may not feel the same way. That would be cowardly. The truth is, you never know until you try! I'm saying if you get your hopes up and they don't, or can't feel the same way, then it's going to be painful. Trust me I'm kind of an expert at that. So what is it that propels you from the friend zone into the boy/girlfriend zone? No really I would love to know. From what I can tell, it seems like an impossible task. The only thing I can come up with is to find someone you like as a person, because if you're going on looks alone you deserve the friend zone. I'm won't claim I don't notice when a woman is attractive, it's just not the only thing I consider. If she is lovely, but turns out to be a selfish, self centered type, then I won't bother wasting my time crushing on her. Now I know we as human beings are wired a certain way. It's in our coding to find the prime specimen of our species: Someone better looking, stronger, more athletic, even smarter, in order to produce better offspring. It's true not everyone wants to have kids and propagate the species, but the need to find a better mate is there. From my own experience. I can say, being a nice guy who is reasonably intelligent doesn't get you far unless you're also at the very least cute. I'm not really as bitter as this blog may make me out; far from it. I'm a hopeless romantic. I feel that anyone should be able to find someone to connect with. I may be a day away from finding that myself, but I've come to realize that tempering hope with caution keeps you from getting too hurt. Because every day I see people who are in relationships, and some of them are unfortunately bad ones, but the majority are the kind I want to find. Here's my last bit of sudo wisdom for this blog. If you have a "Ducky" in your life, and they can make you smile and are someone you can be yourself with; and they don't go running for the hills. Why not give them a chance? On behalf of all the other Duckies out there you could do (and probably have done.) worse than you accept the love and affections from someone who will always be there for you. Okay Rant Over! :-)
