Tuesday Jul 06, 2010

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I made my brother cry today because I told him that if he follows his current path in life, he'll die like his parents.I feel really bad, but I had to explain the importance of choosing the right path in life and doing positive things. hes just been in so much trouble in his short life, hes old enough now to go to jail or prison. I really hate to say it but I see him either in jail or dead in the future.

I really am tryin my best to help and guide him but theres only so much I can do. Hes on the practically homeless and i let him stay a couple nights but i cannot let him live here becuase of what hes mixed up with frown Not to mention i dont have the room. I told him I'll pull some strings cause I know a couple business owners, and I'll help him get job applications this week.

I told him that everything hes done he has done to himself. And he does have the power to get on the right path.

This is really stressing me out..and I'm worried..I just don't want to lose my brother.
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I hate to say this because I know you said what you did to your brother out of love, but it probably just made him feel more alienated from you. I'm sure he knows right from wrong just as you do, but he's at where he's at and he can't change it for you, he has to want to change it for himself. (And he's also the only person he owes it to to do that-he doesn't owe it to you or anybody but himself to live his life a certain way.) I know it's probably hard not to judge him, but that's really not your job. Loving him is. And I'll bet having someone in his life who loves him unconditionally will really make things better for him, no matter what choices he makes or where he ends up. I'm not saying don't draw your own boundaries as to what you can and can't do for him (ie. you will help him find a job, but not let him live at your house), but just let him know you're always there to love him.

I hope I'm not being to presumptuous here, I've just been on both sides of dilemmas like this and I know what helped me, that's all. smile I hope the best for you and your bro!

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