One of my many new years resolutions this year was to stop being quite so grumpy. It is true I can be a bit difficult. I put it down to being a 'creative' person, and when I am working on something or tired I know I can be quite difficult to be around. I get snappy and angry. I don;t want to be an angry person but that it was I am afraid I am becoming. Lately I seem to have a very short fuse, get frustrated with people for the smallest things, and keep jumping to the worst conclusion in every situation, every comment I see an attack. A lot of this is probably down to lack of sleep. I have been working late a lot recently, and not getting to bed when i should.
After my Mum died a few years ago I was persuaded to go and see a councillor, which did not really work out well, kind of felt paying 45 a week to be told how had an abusive relationship with my parents was a piss take, true my Mum was an alcoholic and thats what killed her, and the last few years were not always easy, but when I was a kid she was a great mum. My Dad is an alcoholic but he is harmless, just frustrating he had gum Cancer last year and after 15 hours of surgery and having his jaw removed and rebuilt using bones from his leg he was alright, but will he stop drinking and smoking NO he won't. Anyway the one thing I got from the counseling was that we all have an ability to cope with stuff and I have a habit of letting this run down.
Fuck I dont know where this blog is going, but it feel good to empty my head, so sorry if you have read this far.
So does anyone have any good tips for dealing with stress without lashing out at people, I have been told wearing a rubber band and snapping it every time you get angry helps, but to be honest I dont mind the pain of that. I sit here take deep breathes, go for a walk, but then something will happen and I will just get angry again. I can feel it building up inside, I say don't react, don't say what your thinking, and before I know it, it is said. So any tips would be appreciated. I am not an angry person and don;t want to be, but I think that is what people are starting to think of me as.
After my Mum died a few years ago I was persuaded to go and see a councillor, which did not really work out well, kind of felt paying 45 a week to be told how had an abusive relationship with my parents was a piss take, true my Mum was an alcoholic and thats what killed her, and the last few years were not always easy, but when I was a kid she was a great mum. My Dad is an alcoholic but he is harmless, just frustrating he had gum Cancer last year and after 15 hours of surgery and having his jaw removed and rebuilt using bones from his leg he was alright, but will he stop drinking and smoking NO he won't. Anyway the one thing I got from the counseling was that we all have an ability to cope with stuff and I have a habit of letting this run down.
Fuck I dont know where this blog is going, but it feel good to empty my head, so sorry if you have read this far.
So does anyone have any good tips for dealing with stress without lashing out at people, I have been told wearing a rubber band and snapping it every time you get angry helps, but to be honest I dont mind the pain of that. I sit here take deep breathes, go for a walk, but then something will happen and I will just get angry again. I can feel it building up inside, I say don't react, don't say what your thinking, and before I know it, it is said. So any tips would be appreciated. I am not an angry person and don;t want to be, but I think that is what people are starting to think of me as.
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Anger is a funny thing.
One of the most important lessons I've learned is that anger is really a second emotion.
So maybe try and figure out what's making you angry, like stress, than simply put it I'm really stressed.
I started doing that.
It feels good to get out what you're feeling but in a productive way rather than a defensive way.
If that makes any sense at all.
I know exactly where you're coming from. I hate being that'shouty' Mum to my kids. When I get stressed or down I raise my voice and let simple things that kidds do get to me more and I hate myself for it. I am able to shw my affection and love for them thankfully. My mother never could.
I'd seriously love to discover how to manage my stress more. I have never really given anything other than drugs and alcohol a real try. I dont do drugs anymore and have never been someone who drank to relieve stress. I bought Yoga for the wii and a yoga mat months ago but have yet to even open them. lol.
I should walk more. I got out of the house today when the sun was out and it was really good for me. I watch alot of comedy too. I know that's a kind of avoidance way about dealing with things but laughing can't hurt can it?
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