For those of you who have never been though it, being in a band is like a relationship, but with a LOT more people's feelings to take into account. And drunkedness doesn't help.
O.P.S. was her name, and we had some good times. But her bass player got a little too much for me to handle, so we split. We stayed great friends. I've even filled in some shows when she was short a guitar player. They found a stable guitar player soon enough, and the other guitarist left. They found another one. The guitarists had to learn some difficult parts left behind by their predecessors, and tonight was their first big show. One of the guitarists, botched up a part after kind of being forced to learn it because the new guy wasn't that good a player. He fucked up, who cares, right? It's a punk show. Well someone did care, it was the bass player/mouthpiece of the band. After the show, I saw the bass player, my friend, berate the guitarist, also my friend. It really bummed me out. I spoke with the guitarist, telling him to avoid a situation that would bring him grief, becase apparently this has been happening for a while. Sucks. The guitarist is also my drummer in M-66, and I don't want to EVER see him as bummed out as he looked after that dumb-ass argument he had with the bass player. It really fucked me up and also reminded me of why I left that band. I just don't want to have another person go through that, because by far, that was the WORST break-up I ever had; worse than any relationship I've had. Period.
I don't want to be a homewrecker so to speak, but I don't want my friend to be surrounded by bullshit like that either. input? comments? I'd appreciate it.
O.P.S. was her name, and we had some good times. But her bass player got a little too much for me to handle, so we split. We stayed great friends. I've even filled in some shows when she was short a guitar player. They found a stable guitar player soon enough, and the other guitarist left. They found another one. The guitarists had to learn some difficult parts left behind by their predecessors, and tonight was their first big show. One of the guitarists, botched up a part after kind of being forced to learn it because the new guy wasn't that good a player. He fucked up, who cares, right? It's a punk show. Well someone did care, it was the bass player/mouthpiece of the band. After the show, I saw the bass player, my friend, berate the guitarist, also my friend. It really bummed me out. I spoke with the guitarist, telling him to avoid a situation that would bring him grief, becase apparently this has been happening for a while. Sucks. The guitarist is also my drummer in M-66, and I don't want to EVER see him as bummed out as he looked after that dumb-ass argument he had with the bass player. It really fucked me up and also reminded me of why I left that band. I just don't want to have another person go through that, because by far, that was the WORST break-up I ever had; worse than any relationship I've had. Period.
I don't want to be a homewrecker so to speak, but I don't want my friend to be surrounded by bullshit like that either. input? comments? I'd appreciate it.