I've tried to assist others, throughout my life, as much as possible. A close friend from high school, passed away about 4 years ago. At the time I was dealing with stroke recovery. As soon as I heard of her passing, I felt literally compelled to do something. Especially after finding out that she was the 6th person, that had passed away, from my graduating class.
I reached out to her family, and all families I could find. Out of respect, prior to spearheading, the charitable events. I decided to focus on a few charitable organizations. One was my focus. I didn't want to draw too much attention to the manner of the tragic passing of my friend Erin. She had taken her own life. Following a divorce, and eating disorder battle. So I chose AFSP. Aka Americans for Suicide Prevention. I also selected a local, Boys and Girls club organization. I had experience volunteering with them, during my years working towards my teaching degrees.
The outpouring of support was incredible. I spearheaded 2 separate raffles. One during the day, at a popular ice cream shop. More geared towards families. It was a celebration of 6 lives. I didn't want people spreading information. So I didn't even discuss the situation fully. Unless it was in private, with someone I knew had pure intentions. I also had a raffle where we did our after prom. Both had great donations of wonderful raffle prizes like Yankee tickets, Aquarium tickets, Tattoo/piercing gift certificates, Jimmy Kimmel tickets, and so much more. We were able to raise 1,500. For AFSP walk for Rita. We also donated to the children's charity.
Because I always have to go hard or go home... I also had a cherry blossom tree planted, in their honor in a local park. There was also a beautiful stone, and plaque placed at the location. With 6 stepping stones, leading to the bench that was also donated. I also did a tree dedication, and butterfly release at the dedication. That's part of how I decided to get the monarch tattoo, on my back as a tribute piece. Erin's parents released a monarch butterfly. Later on a hike, her mother had a monarch land on a bracelet, they had made for Erin. It made me feel that I was on the right track, with what I was doing to honor her memory. Check out the monarch butterfly, that now adorns my back, in tribute of her memory. Her parents were very grateful, for something positive to focus on, during their time of grief. Her parents have continued to be a part of the "Walk for Rita" movement that AFSP has yearly. They also have involved themselves in additional charitable groups, that keep them active hiking while raising money. Her family was grateful for the support networks. I try to keep in touch with them. Knowing they're still grieving, and "life will never be the same again". My heart goes out to anyone struggling, with the loss of a loved one.
Please remember that if you're struggling, especially during these trying times. There's always someone to reach out to. I'm here for you. Also AFSP has a hot line, that you can reach out to, and many resources available. Remember your life has value! I cherish those in this wonderful community...yes that includes you! If you know someone struggling, please take it seriously. I have lost my cousin and step brother to the tragedy of suicide. There's always another option. It devastates those left behind. If you believe you're experiencing mental health issues, please get the help you need. There is no shame! I've been through very challenging times, with my physical health issues. For me it's a lot of mind over matter. I also have a degree in psychology, so I know the power, of the help potentially out there. If you or anyone you know is struggling. Thank you for taking the time to read this blog.
Wishing you all health and happiness. Best wishes on all of your endeavors to come. Let's think positively and hopefully for all that is to come...make the most out of life, in a safe way!
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