i think my mom finally realizes that i intend to stay with spott for a long damn time. she's a little fucked up about it. we got into a big fight saturday.
now, ask me if i care?
i don't. i'm just pissed off that the woman expects me to live the standard life of 60 years ago.
she's only fucked up about it because spott doesn't have a cock, and can't produce babies with me. that woman has been positively hounding me to find a MAN, get MARRIED, have BABIES, etc etc. so saturday, she started in on all the little things she doesn't like about spott, why spott and i could never make it for real. it was all bullshit - most of the things she doesn't like are entirely due to the fact that spott has OCD. my mom will never understand that spott lives her life in a collection of patterns. changing any one of those patterns severely fucks with her head and requires plenty of recovery time. i have accepted this. can my mom? no. she's still living in the dark ages.
i'm also aggravated because it is perfectly ok with her for my gay brother and HIS partner to be together, to want to adopt kids, to have a happy life, but for ME to want to have kids and raise them with spott? oh gods forbid.
so, at the end of our fight, my mom says "i have to love your partner too, ya know" (implying that she doesn't, at all, even though about forever ago she said she did)... to which i replied "then love her. she is quirky and inexperienced, and just love her." then i left.
she tried to tell me before in no uncertain terms that we HAD to talk about it MORE, on SUNDAY at DINNER. i think she realized she's not going to win... she didn't say a word.
anyone else have to do this with their parents? got anything good to tell me? cuz i'm about at the point where i tell her i'm not talking about it anymore. she can respect my decisions or not, but don't badger me about them.
now, ask me if i care?
i don't. i'm just pissed off that the woman expects me to live the standard life of 60 years ago.
she's only fucked up about it because spott doesn't have a cock, and can't produce babies with me. that woman has been positively hounding me to find a MAN, get MARRIED, have BABIES, etc etc. so saturday, she started in on all the little things she doesn't like about spott, why spott and i could never make it for real. it was all bullshit - most of the things she doesn't like are entirely due to the fact that spott has OCD. my mom will never understand that spott lives her life in a collection of patterns. changing any one of those patterns severely fucks with her head and requires plenty of recovery time. i have accepted this. can my mom? no. she's still living in the dark ages.
i'm also aggravated because it is perfectly ok with her for my gay brother and HIS partner to be together, to want to adopt kids, to have a happy life, but for ME to want to have kids and raise them with spott? oh gods forbid.
so, at the end of our fight, my mom says "i have to love your partner too, ya know" (implying that she doesn't, at all, even though about forever ago she said she did)... to which i replied "then love her. she is quirky and inexperienced, and just love her." then i left.
she tried to tell me before in no uncertain terms that we HAD to talk about it MORE, on SUNDAY at DINNER. i think she realized she's not going to win... she didn't say a word.
anyone else have to do this with their parents? got anything good to tell me? cuz i'm about at the point where i tell her i'm not talking about it anymore. she can respect my decisions or not, but don't badger me about them.
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Leave it on the table.
When she asks, 'What's that?!?' just tell her it's S's cock.
I really don't see what could go wrong.
I can totaly identify with the whole not getting along with "mom" thing.
I think that this: "i'm not talking about it anymore. she can respect my decisions or not, but don't badger me about them" is a great way of putting it; sometimes the best thing to say isn't the easiest or nicest but if it is the truth that's really good.
Best of luck on Sunday at dinner!
I hope everything else is going well.