A Slight Variation... On The Standard Rant Of a Single Guy
Out at my local industrial night... where I can actually physically be around women who look the way they do on this site...I was struck by something. Years ago in my 20's Hanging out in the same kinds of clubs, the COOL people there would talk to me in said club, but on the street ignore me like I was some street rat begging for spare change.
That really didn't bug me all to much ... I was probably playing the same game in return to somebody else who possibly was father down the pecking order. Also, I was every now and they leaving to go tour or work a long running show. So I never really glommed on to any one club clique. As, by the time I became a regular again the scene had always altered a bit as people fell out or couples broke up. ( plus, I too was in this hellish, immature, roller coaster relationship myself... which took all that energy as well )
But, in the last couple of years I've been working on getting better at chatting up women ( I know I'm going to get flack for that last statement... but I'd like to point out that YOU women never EVER start the chat up... It's always the guys job... So don't knock a guy if he's trying to improve his ability... that guy who is...He might be the one you want whose' always in the corner of the club unsure of himself. While you stand there hoping to get his proximity sensors going while "Ignoring him" as you check your text messages, and/or pretend to fumble for your lighter )
And my opinion on women... my attraction to them has changed a bit as well. With that, the reverse expereince seems to be taking place. Women who I chat with in stores and the like who frequent the club where this night and the fetish night exists... don't talk to me there.
For example.... there's the girl... A red head who used to work as security at the near by mega-music shop.. I'll admit I thought she was really young when I met her there. So, when we ended up chatting at her workplace... I started to practiced drive bys on her. She was ( this is an important piece of information ) a cute curvy red head with the same music tastes and gothy makeup... a bit uncertain and shy.. just the type I like. She never used to come out to clubs and I always asked her to join me if I was able and the topic came up. But, she always made some excuse.
Now all of a sudden she shows up at club night and She's all that standard, common garden Gothy hot. Drinking bottled water, a smoker, and super skinny, industrial hipster now. With a bunch of really hot ivy like Tattoos to boot - who knows, she may have had those before as I never saw her in a dainty black PVC corset at HMV
Of course, now she doesn't acknowledge my existence at all. All the other, hot, skinny, super goth tattoo girls who also act like I don't exist have cliqued her in and now. Which means for the likes of me... at my attraction abilities... she's entered the verboten zone.
Why do women do that???? Thankfully she 's a smoker.. a habit which I abhor. So it's much easier to stop any possible oneitus here. But, she's still a red head.. which is quite the weakness for me
Regardless... it still begs the question. Why do you all click into instant aloof mode when lots of guys start hitting on you... or when you make it to that internal Perfect size /weight and get accepted by the cool girls.
Out at my local industrial night... where I can actually physically be around women who look the way they do on this site...I was struck by something. Years ago in my 20's Hanging out in the same kinds of clubs, the COOL people there would talk to me in said club, but on the street ignore me like I was some street rat begging for spare change.
That really didn't bug me all to much ... I was probably playing the same game in return to somebody else who possibly was father down the pecking order. Also, I was every now and they leaving to go tour or work a long running show. So I never really glommed on to any one club clique. As, by the time I became a regular again the scene had always altered a bit as people fell out or couples broke up. ( plus, I too was in this hellish, immature, roller coaster relationship myself... which took all that energy as well )
But, in the last couple of years I've been working on getting better at chatting up women ( I know I'm going to get flack for that last statement... but I'd like to point out that YOU women never EVER start the chat up... It's always the guys job... So don't knock a guy if he's trying to improve his ability... that guy who is...He might be the one you want whose' always in the corner of the club unsure of himself. While you stand there hoping to get his proximity sensors going while "Ignoring him" as you check your text messages, and/or pretend to fumble for your lighter )
And my opinion on women... my attraction to them has changed a bit as well. With that, the reverse expereince seems to be taking place. Women who I chat with in stores and the like who frequent the club where this night and the fetish night exists... don't talk to me there.
For example.... there's the girl... A red head who used to work as security at the near by mega-music shop.. I'll admit I thought she was really young when I met her there. So, when we ended up chatting at her workplace... I started to practiced drive bys on her. She was ( this is an important piece of information ) a cute curvy red head with the same music tastes and gothy makeup... a bit uncertain and shy.. just the type I like. She never used to come out to clubs and I always asked her to join me if I was able and the topic came up. But, she always made some excuse.
Now all of a sudden she shows up at club night and She's all that standard, common garden Gothy hot. Drinking bottled water, a smoker, and super skinny, industrial hipster now. With a bunch of really hot ivy like Tattoos to boot - who knows, she may have had those before as I never saw her in a dainty black PVC corset at HMV
Of course, now she doesn't acknowledge my existence at all. All the other, hot, skinny, super goth tattoo girls who also act like I don't exist have cliqued her in and now. Which means for the likes of me... at my attraction abilities... she's entered the verboten zone.
Why do women do that???? Thankfully she 's a smoker.. a habit which I abhor. So it's much easier to stop any possible oneitus here. But, she's still a red head.. which is quite the weakness for me
Regardless... it still begs the question. Why do you all click into instant aloof mode when lots of guys start hitting on you... or when you make it to that internal Perfect size /weight and get accepted by the cool girls.