Push Me... Pull You
It was going great... The pretty actress backstage was all smiles and flirtation all this last week. Hell, she started it, touching and teasing me first. Later when we all went for food between shows. She didn't freak out about the P.A. ( Prince Albert I have - She even asked questions... After I asked her about the tattoos I noticed ) She even seemed to be cool about, when I told her about going dancing at Sin City fetish night after Valentines Day... - I gave her a Valentines gift as my " Show Crush " Which she was totally excited about. And I did my best to play that down.
The other night, Nat challenged me to wear my fetish gear backstage in the big cue where I strap her into the harness and hang her on the door. As I was still learning the ASM cues tonight I resisted doing that.. Because I didn't know if I could pull off her cues and mine. With enough time to surprise Nat with the Rubber look.
Well, tonight as I readied myself to run the show alone backstage ( The ASM is going with the show to Calgary at the end of the week ) I realised that, with no chaperone backstage I could... If I was still getting positive IOI's. And it seemed like I was - Ask her out for drinks after. During the harness preset I finally got to side compliment her on her lovely, cute bottom. And, as she'd been tapping me on the ass before during other shows. I emphasized my compliment with the same.
Don't tell me this was a wrong move...
In the past... If a woman flirts with me a lot like she has. I've found that telling a pretty women in a classy way that she has a lovely bum has always worked wonders. And really, I genuinely mean it...I'm an ass man. Seriously...The perfect women to me is, petite, flat chested with a fantastic heart shaped bum. (To me, that's a hot girl. )
But,... It was....It went what I thought was warm indicators or stage flirting ( Which is kind of like Stage fighting - which is a gag ) last week... This week? After my appreciative tap. Nat's distant and Cold ( She doesn't want to sit near me or really chat. I guess I missed my window last week, came on too strong. Or, maybe with the ASM not backstage, Nat lost the control barrier she needed to actually playing this flirtation out as just that... Stage flirtation. Nat bailed with one of the actors really quickly after the show. So I didn't even get a chance to ask her if she wanted a ride back to the hotel.
The " other Guy " is gay so it's not that....But, once again... I'm sitting here alone, buck a slice pizza and cheap glass of wine on the desk. Wondering???? What the hell went wrong? ( I found out the next day asking Kevin casually if I'd Weird-d her out and I gather from his quite,"well... " that I did )
This sucks and it's going to make the next few days a bit sad...I'm just going to get back into reading in between cues and be super neutral.
As I wrote before this seldom happens that an Attractive woman around my desired dating age ( +/- 5 years around my own age... 41 ) Works in theatre, but not Stage-management. Nat, she's a Gemini, a Volkswagen owner. Her favorite color's green ( I own a cute little green Volkswagen !!! )
But, once again, flirting with the opposite sex backstage - as always - it turns out to be an emotional cul-de-sac
It was going great... The pretty actress backstage was all smiles and flirtation all this last week. Hell, she started it, touching and teasing me first. Later when we all went for food between shows. She didn't freak out about the P.A. ( Prince Albert I have - She even asked questions... After I asked her about the tattoos I noticed ) She even seemed to be cool about, when I told her about going dancing at Sin City fetish night after Valentines Day... - I gave her a Valentines gift as my " Show Crush " Which she was totally excited about. And I did my best to play that down.
The other night, Nat challenged me to wear my fetish gear backstage in the big cue where I strap her into the harness and hang her on the door. As I was still learning the ASM cues tonight I resisted doing that.. Because I didn't know if I could pull off her cues and mine. With enough time to surprise Nat with the Rubber look.
Well, tonight as I readied myself to run the show alone backstage ( The ASM is going with the show to Calgary at the end of the week ) I realised that, with no chaperone backstage I could... If I was still getting positive IOI's. And it seemed like I was - Ask her out for drinks after. During the harness preset I finally got to side compliment her on her lovely, cute bottom. And, as she'd been tapping me on the ass before during other shows. I emphasized my compliment with the same.
Don't tell me this was a wrong move...
In the past... If a woman flirts with me a lot like she has. I've found that telling a pretty women in a classy way that she has a lovely bum has always worked wonders. And really, I genuinely mean it...I'm an ass man. Seriously...The perfect women to me is, petite, flat chested with a fantastic heart shaped bum. (To me, that's a hot girl. )
But,... It was....It went what I thought was warm indicators or stage flirting ( Which is kind of like Stage fighting - which is a gag ) last week... This week? After my appreciative tap. Nat's distant and Cold ( She doesn't want to sit near me or really chat. I guess I missed my window last week, came on too strong. Or, maybe with the ASM not backstage, Nat lost the control barrier she needed to actually playing this flirtation out as just that... Stage flirtation. Nat bailed with one of the actors really quickly after the show. So I didn't even get a chance to ask her if she wanted a ride back to the hotel.
The " other Guy " is gay so it's not that....But, once again... I'm sitting here alone, buck a slice pizza and cheap glass of wine on the desk. Wondering???? What the hell went wrong? ( I found out the next day asking Kevin casually if I'd Weird-d her out and I gather from his quite,"well... " that I did )
This sucks and it's going to make the next few days a bit sad...I'm just going to get back into reading in between cues and be super neutral.
As I wrote before this seldom happens that an Attractive woman around my desired dating age ( +/- 5 years around my own age... 41 ) Works in theatre, but not Stage-management. Nat, she's a Gemini, a Volkswagen owner. Her favorite color's green ( I own a cute little green Volkswagen !!! )
But, once again, flirting with the opposite sex backstage - as always - it turns out to be an emotional cul-de-sac