7 Deadly Sins....
So, I 've convinced my Friend Michelle AND... her BF to come out to Sin City. I even loaned him some of my Pervy wear. As he showed up without and probably feeling a bit wrong dressed. We all had a good time watching all the Burlesque bits.. the piercing demo... A few drinks... and a bit of Voyuerism. Once again, I introduced them to everyone else I knew at the place who was there... tried to be the host sort thing. And when the looked like they wanted Privacy ( if there is such a thing in a fetish event... ) I took off to dance.
At the end of the evening she thanked me for the pervy clothing loan and helping her BF feel included. And I said, " Well, You Owe Me " with a sly look... which she once again didn't get. Thinking I was being suggestive of some sort of private interlude, between the both of us.
So, It looks like I'm going to have to be way more direct the next time we go for coffee...
You know... I've been the dutiful friend now for 8 years. I haven't tried to woo her, or sleep with her while her relationship was going thru a rough bit. Helped her find her inner Dom. Given her tones of advice etc. In fact I've been pretty outstanding. Listening to all her issues. And all I want is for her to wing-man me one of thease nights for a change. Help me meet the cute aloof Pervy girls that so far have alluded my own lackluster chat up abilities. ( guys ... I can talk to guys... cute women... that's another story. ) Or at least dare me to go speak to them. - I mean really nothing will probably come from it except maybe a boost in my courage zone
Somehow, I was hoping this would come naturally. That she would get it. As she constantly says what a great catch I am Etc...etc. Because I guess that would make it seem less forced. Or that she would finally put action to her words of " If I knew any of your type I'd introduce you to them..." And I've kept trying to say or point out the girls I think I like. And her response ? She puts my choices down....Or finds negatives to them. She doesn't ever try to dare me to chat them up... nothing... it's getting to be really annoying.
I hate being direct....about conniving little things like this. I'm a romantic. I keep hoping it will Just... HAPPEN. But, as I've found the real world and all it's idioms doesn't wait for romantics. And really wonderful men and women who find great love rarely meet just from happenstance. Or internet dating.... They're introduced in a place where like minded people are. And something happens from there... or they just chat... no pressure. And that's what I need.
The question is: How do I ask without coming across as bitter...? Because the fact that she hasn't taken the idea up before without prompting ( Like - You know I'm going to promote my friend cause he's the best guy I know... I keep telling him so.... and he's really been there for me. ) kind of makes me feel bitter. So, I have to say something... before I go all passive aggressive. And I build another wall between me and someone I care about.
So, I 've convinced my Friend Michelle AND... her BF to come out to Sin City. I even loaned him some of my Pervy wear. As he showed up without and probably feeling a bit wrong dressed. We all had a good time watching all the Burlesque bits.. the piercing demo... A few drinks... and a bit of Voyuerism. Once again, I introduced them to everyone else I knew at the place who was there... tried to be the host sort thing. And when the looked like they wanted Privacy ( if there is such a thing in a fetish event... ) I took off to dance.
At the end of the evening she thanked me for the pervy clothing loan and helping her BF feel included. And I said, " Well, You Owe Me " with a sly look... which she once again didn't get. Thinking I was being suggestive of some sort of private interlude, between the both of us.
So, It looks like I'm going to have to be way more direct the next time we go for coffee...
You know... I've been the dutiful friend now for 8 years. I haven't tried to woo her, or sleep with her while her relationship was going thru a rough bit. Helped her find her inner Dom. Given her tones of advice etc. In fact I've been pretty outstanding. Listening to all her issues. And all I want is for her to wing-man me one of thease nights for a change. Help me meet the cute aloof Pervy girls that so far have alluded my own lackluster chat up abilities. ( guys ... I can talk to guys... cute women... that's another story. ) Or at least dare me to go speak to them. - I mean really nothing will probably come from it except maybe a boost in my courage zone
Somehow, I was hoping this would come naturally. That she would get it. As she constantly says what a great catch I am Etc...etc. Because I guess that would make it seem less forced. Or that she would finally put action to her words of " If I knew any of your type I'd introduce you to them..." And I've kept trying to say or point out the girls I think I like. And her response ? She puts my choices down....Or finds negatives to them. She doesn't ever try to dare me to chat them up... nothing... it's getting to be really annoying.
I hate being direct....about conniving little things like this. I'm a romantic. I keep hoping it will Just... HAPPEN. But, as I've found the real world and all it's idioms doesn't wait for romantics. And really wonderful men and women who find great love rarely meet just from happenstance. Or internet dating.... They're introduced in a place where like minded people are. And something happens from there... or they just chat... no pressure. And that's what I need.
The question is: How do I ask without coming across as bitter...? Because the fact that she hasn't taken the idea up before without prompting ( Like - You know I'm going to promote my friend cause he's the best guy I know... I keep telling him so.... and he's really been there for me. ) kind of makes me feel bitter. So, I have to say something... before I go all passive aggressive. And I build another wall between me and someone I care about.
See, I just introduce her ( and Others ) to people. And I work really hard at it. As I don't know many people at clubs.
I just don't mention names... I provide a connecting back-story " Cindy, here with the latex corset. is also a teacher..." " This is James, the guy in the latex dress and Kiss boots, who is my next door neighbor and runs a brewery. " Etc.
I do this without being asked. You know.... to help get the person I'm with over the first 5 seconds of meeting someone new that I know. And, I do this because I realise how hard it is to say the first thing to someone new. And I think it's the polite thing to do. I kind of wish for the more formal 1950's ( Without all the starched shirts and poodle skirts. ) When it was customary to introduce people to people. It seems like a more civilized time.
I just don't get why I can't for the life of me find a friend who has the chustpa to return the favour. It's like introductions and conversation are a lost art.