The Invitation
I meant to write all weekend but I have been so damned busy. First off I wanted to talk about the invitation that I extended to two very good friends of mine. Let's call them J and M. So J and M have been married for about 5 years and they have owned 4 houses in that time. Their first place was in a town called Plainfield and it was their best house. They sold this house for no reason. The mortgage was low, the neighborhood was good, and they were close to J's parents. So why did they sell the house? I have no idea.
Fast forward a few years until last Monday. J calls me up out of the blue and tells me he just sold his current house... Now I get a little jealous because I still have not sold my old place... but I guess they sold it for less then they paid for it! That was probably not a good business move. He then proceeds to tell me that he is in 25k of debt. Now, if you have been reading my blog at all you know that my girlfriend has left and I am all alone. I have a decent size house (5 bedrooms) and it is quiet lonely in here. My ex and I considered asking these two to live with us for some financial relief but we never got around to actually doing the asking. So I mention to J on the phone that I may have a place they can stay. He gets excited, because he is my friend and jumps all over it. I ask him to speak to M, his wife, so that I can at least talk to someone who is more rational. I get M on the phone and we spend the next 3 hours discussing how them living with me may work.
Now here is the hardest part! J and M have two kids!!! If they were alone this is a no brainer. They are both super trustworthy and I have known them for over 12 years. Their kids are 3 and 2. So while I am sort of extending this offer I am unsure as to how I feel about living with kids. I leave the conversation off with something like this. "You decide if you think it is in the best interest for your family to move in with me and I will take you in if that is your decision." I know that sounds wishy washy but this is a HUGE decision. They decide to bring their kids over on Thursday to see how they react in the house.
Thursday rolls around and the kids come over. The first thing that I notice is their little one LOVES to scream for absolutely no reason. The older one likes to smack things with my broom. All of this doesn't phase me all that much since I now that kids will be kids. I end up playing with the two of them for a couple hours and then they get ready to go home. After the kids are put in the car I approach M and ask her what she thought. She says she is worried her kids will break my stuff. I am also concerned at that, but tell her that my house is currently not childproof and we can fix that. I honestly don't think that her kids will be that huge of a burden but obviously I will have to change my lifestyle. Right now I watch violent movies --I wanted to say adult but you all have dirty minds--, play violent video games, and do whatever the hell it is I want because it is my house. If I had kids in the house I would have to change my lifestyle.
So they leave with the promise that M will call me the next day. Right before lunch J calls me and says they are not moving in because M says I hate her kids.
Since I never said anything of the sort I hang up on him and call M. After I call her a coward for sending a messenger I ask her what the hell is up. She tells me that she thinks the kids will be too much of a burden and I call bullshit on it. I then begin to tell her that if she moves in with me I will help her juggle her financies and reduce her debt more then they can by themselves. Now remember I am not trying to convice them of anything. I am merely trying to present some of the pros for living with me. She is absolutely baffled at how I can help them reduce debt and one thing she doesn't know is that I am going to invest their rent money that they paid me and pay them back when they moved out as a goodwill gesture.
A tangant!!! They wanted to live with me for 5 years!! Are they crazy!! Then when they brought the kids over they said 3 would be fine!!! hahahahah
Tangant 2!!! They are going to pay me 1000 a month for rent, the same as the place they are looking at. The only problem is the place they are looking at is 600sq ft and I have 3600sq ft. Also, I am charging no utilities and the place they are looking at is.
Back to the main thread. After talking with M for a long time she says "Yes, I think living with you would be the best idea" I then tell her to get a babysitter for Saturday and both of them should come over and we can go over the finer details. She agrees and hangs up. I talk to J later that day and he tells me that M has arranged for a baby sitter and he will call me on Saturday before they leave.
It's Saturday and I am excited and nervous. I am making mental preparations to have all of this happen. J calls me at 5:00pm and drops a bomb on me. M has decided we are going to rent... At this point I am crushed and I can tell he wants me to convice him otherwise... Even though I am crushed I can't try to convince him........
WAIT!! I forgot an important fact!!! Sorry I am on a roll and this is going to be unedited so I don't want to go back and check things. J calls me up on Friday night and says: "M wants to know if we can get a dog when we live with you. We want to start breeding again." Is he JOKING?!? Dogs are expensive and in someone elses house? I tell him that he can't afford a dog right now and he laugs and says he will tell M.
So could this be why they are backing out?!? I think SO! Its annoying and stupid. I am going to call M tomorrow (Monday) and bitch at her, but they have lost their chance.
I meant to write all weekend but I have been so damned busy. First off I wanted to talk about the invitation that I extended to two very good friends of mine. Let's call them J and M. So J and M have been married for about 5 years and they have owned 4 houses in that time. Their first place was in a town called Plainfield and it was their best house. They sold this house for no reason. The mortgage was low, the neighborhood was good, and they were close to J's parents. So why did they sell the house? I have no idea.
Fast forward a few years until last Monday. J calls me up out of the blue and tells me he just sold his current house... Now I get a little jealous because I still have not sold my old place... but I guess they sold it for less then they paid for it! That was probably not a good business move. He then proceeds to tell me that he is in 25k of debt. Now, if you have been reading my blog at all you know that my girlfriend has left and I am all alone. I have a decent size house (5 bedrooms) and it is quiet lonely in here. My ex and I considered asking these two to live with us for some financial relief but we never got around to actually doing the asking. So I mention to J on the phone that I may have a place they can stay. He gets excited, because he is my friend and jumps all over it. I ask him to speak to M, his wife, so that I can at least talk to someone who is more rational. I get M on the phone and we spend the next 3 hours discussing how them living with me may work.
Now here is the hardest part! J and M have two kids!!! If they were alone this is a no brainer. They are both super trustworthy and I have known them for over 12 years. Their kids are 3 and 2. So while I am sort of extending this offer I am unsure as to how I feel about living with kids. I leave the conversation off with something like this. "You decide if you think it is in the best interest for your family to move in with me and I will take you in if that is your decision." I know that sounds wishy washy but this is a HUGE decision. They decide to bring their kids over on Thursday to see how they react in the house.
Thursday rolls around and the kids come over. The first thing that I notice is their little one LOVES to scream for absolutely no reason. The older one likes to smack things with my broom. All of this doesn't phase me all that much since I now that kids will be kids. I end up playing with the two of them for a couple hours and then they get ready to go home. After the kids are put in the car I approach M and ask her what she thought. She says she is worried her kids will break my stuff. I am also concerned at that, but tell her that my house is currently not childproof and we can fix that. I honestly don't think that her kids will be that huge of a burden but obviously I will have to change my lifestyle. Right now I watch violent movies --I wanted to say adult but you all have dirty minds--, play violent video games, and do whatever the hell it is I want because it is my house. If I had kids in the house I would have to change my lifestyle.
So they leave with the promise that M will call me the next day. Right before lunch J calls me and says they are not moving in because M says I hate her kids.
Since I never said anything of the sort I hang up on him and call M. After I call her a coward for sending a messenger I ask her what the hell is up. She tells me that she thinks the kids will be too much of a burden and I call bullshit on it. I then begin to tell her that if she moves in with me I will help her juggle her financies and reduce her debt more then they can by themselves. Now remember I am not trying to convice them of anything. I am merely trying to present some of the pros for living with me. She is absolutely baffled at how I can help them reduce debt and one thing she doesn't know is that I am going to invest their rent money that they paid me and pay them back when they moved out as a goodwill gesture.
A tangant!!! They wanted to live with me for 5 years!! Are they crazy!! Then when they brought the kids over they said 3 would be fine!!! hahahahah
Tangant 2!!! They are going to pay me 1000 a month for rent, the same as the place they are looking at. The only problem is the place they are looking at is 600sq ft and I have 3600sq ft. Also, I am charging no utilities and the place they are looking at is.
Back to the main thread. After talking with M for a long time she says "Yes, I think living with you would be the best idea" I then tell her to get a babysitter for Saturday and both of them should come over and we can go over the finer details. She agrees and hangs up. I talk to J later that day and he tells me that M has arranged for a baby sitter and he will call me on Saturday before they leave.
It's Saturday and I am excited and nervous. I am making mental preparations to have all of this happen. J calls me at 5:00pm and drops a bomb on me. M has decided we are going to rent... At this point I am crushed and I can tell he wants me to convice him otherwise... Even though I am crushed I can't try to convince him........
WAIT!! I forgot an important fact!!! Sorry I am on a roll and this is going to be unedited so I don't want to go back and check things. J calls me up on Friday night and says: "M wants to know if we can get a dog when we live with you. We want to start breeding again." Is he JOKING?!? Dogs are expensive and in someone elses house? I tell him that he can't afford a dog right now and he laugs and says he will tell M.
So could this be why they are backing out?!? I think SO! Its annoying and stupid. I am going to call M tomorrow (Monday) and bitch at her, but they have lost their chance.