BEING TWENTY - SOMETHING
They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when you stop
going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many
things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start
feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then
get scared because you barely know where you are now. You start
realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that
you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you
have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the
most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing
that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that
they are as confused as you. You look at your job... and it is not even
close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking
for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the
bottom and that scares you. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see
what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because
suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and
are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what
isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure. You laugh
and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared
and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to
the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting
further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you
are or move forward. You got your heart broken and wonder how someone
you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why
you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better.
Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure
out why you are doing this because you know that you aren't a bad
person. One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap.
Getting wasted and acting like an idiot doesnt seem as fun. You go
through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with
your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to
make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a
life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right
now you'd just like to be a contender! What you may not realize is that
everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times
and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole
thing out.
They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when you stop
going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many
things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start
feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then
get scared because you barely know where you are now. You start
realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that
you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you
have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the
most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing
that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that
they are as confused as you. You look at your job... and it is not even
close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking
for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the
bottom and that scares you. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see
what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because
suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and
are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what
isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure. You laugh
and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared
and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to
the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting
further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you
are or move forward. You got your heart broken and wonder how someone
you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why
you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better.
Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure
out why you are doing this because you know that you aren't a bad
person. One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap.
Getting wasted and acting like an idiot doesnt seem as fun. You go
through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with
your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to
make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a
life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right
now you'd just like to be a contender! What you may not realize is that
everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times
and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole
thing out.