I find myself really annoyed with most women lately. Probably because I need to spend more time with the awesome women who are my real life friends and less time paying attention to the inane narcissism that permeates so much of the posts of the distaff side of the interwebs (especially on this site- sorry, but it's true) and also to real life acquaintances who are better left as such.
To that end, my New Year's Resolution is to tend to my female friendships like a high-maintenance garden. I need to treasure the women in my life. Because the ones I have allowed to get close to me are smart, sexually empowered, brutally honest superheroes and they deserve better than the alienation and flakiness I've doled out in the last year.
A quick unsaid to the aforementioned emptyheads to get the snark out, and then I'll move on to the real work I need to do:
Everyone does not want to fuck you. Just because you possess a certain kind of cuteness and it's evident that other people notice it, does not mean you are being preyed upon. You are probably not in danger of getting raped every 5 minutes the way you think you are. Get the fuck OVER yourself.
Why don't you try owning your sexuality instead of using it like a passive-aggressive weapon? I am not the mother of any grown men you are dealing with so don't ask ME to fix your shit for you by telling them how YOU feel about THEIR behavior. If you can't express consent, you should stay the FUCK home or at the very least, not go out to a place where sexual boundaries are being pushed.
PS Really bummed because my camera officially died. The only non phone camera we have in the family now is my son's and he's lost his charger. I hope Santa brings me a new camera for Christmas.
To that end, my New Year's Resolution is to tend to my female friendships like a high-maintenance garden. I need to treasure the women in my life. Because the ones I have allowed to get close to me are smart, sexually empowered, brutally honest superheroes and they deserve better than the alienation and flakiness I've doled out in the last year.
A quick unsaid to the aforementioned emptyheads to get the snark out, and then I'll move on to the real work I need to do:
Everyone does not want to fuck you. Just because you possess a certain kind of cuteness and it's evident that other people notice it, does not mean you are being preyed upon. You are probably not in danger of getting raped every 5 minutes the way you think you are. Get the fuck OVER yourself.
Why don't you try owning your sexuality instead of using it like a passive-aggressive weapon? I am not the mother of any grown men you are dealing with so don't ask ME to fix your shit for you by telling them how YOU feel about THEIR behavior. If you can't express consent, you should stay the FUCK home or at the very least, not go out to a place where sexual boundaries are being pushed.
PS Really bummed because my camera officially died. The only non phone camera we have in the family now is my son's and he's lost his charger. I hope Santa brings me a new camera for Christmas.
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good luck with it. i was stuck on something needs to change for a very long time...and then i realized that that something was me.
i admit to being in the process of really getting a handle on my sexuality, i worry all the time that i resort to useing it when i am insecure.
i promise you (and the girls i know who are like you) that i am working on it.