smokin and drinkin... a lot. what is the time period of acceptable sloppiness after a breakup anyway? a month? 2? 3? or does it directly correspond to the amount of time you were together? and if we were together in a forest and no one else was there to witness it.... 
babybeezer:
hmmm, I say it's acceptable until it gets to the point when you disgust yourself. Then it's just time to stop. Eeep, and I feel you on the creepiness of that guy's comment in my journal.